<p>asking for opinions and trying to decide if this is a male/female difference of opinion.
My husband and child ran into a friend of ours a few days ago. She invited our family to join her tonight for a party for her birthday. She asked us to bring drinks. 50+ age
I say we need to get a gift. My husband says no it was a casual invitation. He also neglected to ask how many people we were bringing drinks for. He felt that wasn’t important. Just bring some beer and soda. I on the other hand said that it would be nice to know how many people, are we the only one’s bringing drinks etc.
I don’t feel it needs to be a large or expensive gift but something.
Opinions
and are you male or female</p>
<p>Female - if in doubt I often bring flowers.</p>
<p>I agree.
Flowers (already in a vase), card, bottle of white wine or beer and a couple 6 packs of soda… have more in a cooler in the car in case you are the only one bringing drinks for a dozen people…</p>
<p>I agree with the above.</p>
<p>Good idea dragonmom, having extras in the car</p>
<p>I have another birthday question - if you are invited to a birthday dinner that you are required to split the bill to pay for the birthday person (sometimes it could be a very expensive dinner), are you still required to bring a present? I have also been invited to very nice birthday dinner where the host (spouse) pay for the whole dinner.</p>
<p>I would bring flowers, a nice scented candle or bottle of wine for the birthday at the person’s house. If I were going to a dinner where everyone paid for the guest of honor, I’d probably bring a nice card and something like a package of cute cocktail napkins or something. For my bday last week, a friend brought some chocolate crinkle cookies and some great napkins–picture of an old fashioned housewife holding an enormous chocolate cake. Caption “Because chocolate won’t get you pregnant”</p>
<p>went with a nice scented candle in glass. Trapp brand. Nice scent and nicely packaged. I am glad I did. Interestly the females brought gifts, the males not.</p>
<p>Am I the only one who finds it odd to be requested to bring drinks to a party which I might not even have been invited to if I had done my errands in a different order?</p>
<p>I don’t find it odd to be asked to bring drinks to a party that I was invited to at the last minute.</p>
<p>I agree with those who suggest also bringing something like flowers to the party.</p>
<p>Picture frames always make nice gifts!</p>
<p>mominva- the whole party was thrown together in that way. The birthday woman was not planning a party. Another friend decided that she needed to celebrate her birthday with friends. The decision to have a party was on Sunday, the party monday. The guests were a mix. Also casual. Another friend who came over on monday to pick up my daughter heard about the birthday and decided she was coming even though she was not officially invited. Knowing that the birthday person would not mind. It ended up being about 15 people including some young teenagers. The people involved are all very casual and last minute.
Everyone brought something. The man who decided she needed a party brought all the food and cooked. It ended up being a nice party including a power outage due to a wildfire in our area.</p>
<p>^^^ Great group of friends!</p>