<p>EPTR–</p>
<p>I don’t have any sons, so I don’t know if I would feel the same way or not about a girlfreind being as ambitious? I can only say that we raised both of our girls to have dreams and to set goals and to work hard, and that both H and I are very hard workers, as well.</p>
<p>H’s concern was compatibility. Almost everyone we know who ended up divorced ended up divorced because one person outgrew the other, and it was almost always a kind of lopsided relationship where one person was really out there in the world making things happen (and I’m not talking about making money, but involved in life, just to be clear).</p>
<p>D’s ex is actually much happier now with a girl who is a freind of D’s who is less busy, and less involved, but no less of a great person. Maybe a better word would be “energetic?” He was simply less energetic, significantly so, than was she. </p>
<p>Both are happier, now, and remain friends.</p>