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<p>Did you mean you cannot imagine NOT paying? I only ask because I had to reread it a few times and it seems like you’re advocating for the OP to pay :). I agree with your whole post, btw.</p>
<p>OP, if it’s a decent school and he gets in, he’s probably not a lazy kid or whatever. There may be plenty that he does that you and your husband don’t know about. Just a personal story- my parents were iffy about my boyfriend at first because they thought he was lazy and didn’t have a job. He has a job (he’s a nude model) but he just didn’t want to tell them at first because he wasn’t sure how they would react. He is the most laid back person I’ve ever met and you would never guess that he gets stellar grades and has taught himself Japanese and Spanish because he just doesn’t tell people about himself. My point is that you just might not know the whole story and many people just show ambition and such in different ways. What his parents are going through is really no reflection of him so I’m not sure how it enters the equation.</p>
<p>Also, I agree that cutting off tuition is the best way to destroy your relationship with her and make her cling to him. There is absolutely NO good that can come of that if you value your relationship with your D. If you want to be part of your D’s life, and your future grandchildren’s lives, I would NOT do that.</p>