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<p>Not only that, but someday…those kids’ friends may someday be in a position to return the favor and then some. </p>
<p>Back in HS/undergrad, I was one kid some upper-middle class parents would have considered to be “lacking in energy/ambition” on the basis of my HS grades and/or my family’s financial situation at the time. Fortunately, most of the friends’ parents in HS/college treated their kids friends like myself when they came up to visit us…and did so with great tact and understanding. </p>
<p>Fast forward several years with the recession…and our relative financial positions have reversed in some cases. Now, I’m glad to treat them and their kids and would never dream of regarding anyone I treat as a “leech”…especially if their financial condition was caused by events outside of their direct control as is the case with the OP D’s BF. </p>
<p>Granted, I wouldn’t go so far as to fund cohabitation…but that’s mainly due to the pitfalls arising from excess distraction from SO and inevitable fallout if the relationship ends badly.</p>