<p>As far as the gender reversals go, there are the same concerns. My son’s girlfriend is nice, and he’s crazy about her, but she’s definitely less ambitious than he is. Because she hasn’t had summer jobs, while he’s had great ones, he always picks up her tab and gives her nice gifts. When I realized this was happening, I simply told my son that I think he’s made enough money that he can cover all his own costs except tuition. That seems to be working out fine and now I clearly have no say in the matter and feel better - he’s spending his own money on her, not mine.</p>