<p>Good point, sewhappy.</p>
<p>Ditto almost everyone.My son’s group changed at that age. One of the neighborhood moms kept inviting him anyway and he kept declining. When I pressed him about it, he told me that I didn’t want to know why but he had good reason for changing his group 
This is the age when some go one direction and some another. What seems like the lonely direction is sometimes the stay out of trouble direction.</p>
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<p>ebeeeee that was our experience also.</p>
<p>my situation is slightly different, but it has concerned (and annoyed me!) My son is in middle school - finishing 7th grade - and he has “friends” in school that he has known for a few years since elementary. I guess they are really more like aquaintances…they do not contact him outside of school. He sits home on weekends and no one ever calls him. (they don’t live on the block or around the corner) He used to call them and try to make “plans” but ? I guess he gave up. He used to play baseball with these kids so that was another thing they had in common. They get along well in school etc. but ? I hate seeing him sitting home alone on the weekend. Whats with kids these days. If they don’t live next door or around the corner, its out of sight out of mind. :(</p>
<p>So true. I noticed on my 15 year old’s facebook page every once in a while he’ll post up “Bored, anyone want to do something” to his friends. I think kids just connect differently these days.</p>
<p>My D is " on the spectrum somewhere".
She didn’t have real close friends, until she was in 5th-6th grade. Then she was very tight with three other girls, all through the end of 8th grade. ( they attended a K-12 school) They were * very very good friends* to her- which I know couldn’t have been easy. Three of them chose to go to the same ( different) high school ( inc my D), the other chose to go a school that was across the street from their previous school ( plus she lived a few blocks away).</p>
<p>They were just as good of friends through 9th grade, but in 10th grade they had a major split up- instigated it seems by my D, who seemed to feel that their friendship should always come before any boys, in all circumstances.</p>
<p>I was very upset and worried that my D, would not be able to find her way in this comprehensive inner city school without the close friends who understood her quirks.
She was still friends, with the girl who attended other high school, but the girl who had been her closest friend, was the one who wanted a boy friend, and the other girl sided with her ( as did I- I had tried to explain to D- but she didn’t get it)</p>
<p>It wasn’t a case of mean girls, they just weren’t close friends anymore- and then her best friend moved anyway to Canada.</p>
<p>However- she made other friends, good friends, great kids & I have a lot of confidence in her ability to persevere in all kinds of situations.</p>
<p>She dealt with it- and it worked for her.</p>
<p>Loony2nz- Very similar situation with my 8th grade S. He does actually get together with a friend once in awhile, but not very often. I have talked to other moms and have learned that except for the boys who are athletes and/or in the popular group, this is very typical. I am hoping he finds an activity and social group in high school. </p>
<p>Truthfully, I think it bothers me more than it bothers him.</p>
<p>I could have written the OP’s post though my son is not a brilliant, 4.0 student. My son, too, went to high school with a group of close friends and buddies who have now developed other interests, and my son is left out in the cold. A problem that I see is that he is not involved in any very active group that meets regularly. He did not continue with crew and other sports that do require a lot of time, that his old friends are still doing and as upperclassmen, are now even more fully engaged in those activities. Yet, my son is not close to the “just hanging around”, mall walking, carousing kids either. So, it puts him in an isolated category.</p>
<p>That is a major reason for encouraging vigorous ECs, in my opinion. Most college going kids are very busy in ECs for college reasons, if nothing else, and if your kid is not involved in something that is very active, he could find himself by himself.</p>
<p>We are still working on this situation. Don’t know what to tell him as he just isn’t interested in any of the school activities. The ones he does do, are not heavy on time commitment which means little time with the participants. He is paying for this lack of interest in stuff.</p>
<p>cptofthehouse, can your son start a club that he is interested in and ask a teacher if they would be kind enough to sponser/supervise it (or go through whatever the steps are to getting it ok’d by school administrators)? My son did this, but not to make friends. He just enjoyed a specific activity.</p>
<p>I really don’t have any words of wisdom, but my son, who is a HS senior, has a completely different set of friends than he did when he was a freshman. It wasn’t an abrupt change, but rather a very gradual one with him seeing his “old” friends less and less and it was not anything that was traumatic.</p>
<p>He discovered running and he ran track and x-country throughout HS. There is something about running, especially x-country, that kind of brings the boys together even though he is not the greatest of friends with any of them now. Running can be a solitary sport, but in HS, they run together - at least with those that run the same pace. Another thing is that one does not have to be a great athlete to run. It is hard in the beginning, but the sense of acomplishment is terrific once they get into shape.</p>
<p>He also did some volunteer work, some ECs and somehow managed to meet a bunch of kids that way. He is not particularly outgoing nor is he a retiring type. Kind of in the middle.</p>
<p>Re: Middle school - there were many weekends he spent home alone. He never seemed to be affected by that in a negative way. I like to think that he likes his own company and will do well should he ever live on his own. </p>
<p>Anyway, his friends now are kids I never even knew in 10th grade. It was all so gradual. I hope everything works out well for your son.</p>
<p>It’s interesting that it is mostly postings about boys changing friends early in high school.</p>
<p>Fallgirl - thanks…like you said I think it bothers me more than it bothers him. He is very into this online computer game recently and it totally occupies his time (after school work of course and he’s doing fine in school) I just feel bad in a way, but ??? thanks</p>
<p>Yes, S is always on the computer, too. We have already told him that he must join an EC of his choosing in HS next year. He is thinking of marching band.</p>
<p>Like I say, I hear this is a phase, so until then I try to get him to do a few things around the house and get out to walk the dog. When D is home I can sometimes get her take him somewhere. </p>
<p>“This too shall pass…”</p>