<p>Generally speaking, it is appropriate for frat boys to bring friends (that are not part of the frat or sorority), either male or female, to a mixer with his frat and a sorority?</p>
<p>Outside guys, no. Hot girls, yes.</p>
<p>girls (and guys) are generally not allowed to bring other friends to a mixer (girls or guys) because it could be a huge liability for the chapter if they end up getting really sick</p>
<p>I would always bring my hs buddies or prefrosh from home to my frat’s mixers when they visited. Idk about cornell independents though.</p>
<p>random party question: do most frats have pledge parties this semester and are they open or closed generally?</p>
<p>pledge parties are toward the end of the semester and they are open…and SO MUCH FUN!</p>
<p>From my experiences, it seems like girls are almost always welcome at frat houses, unless it’s like a brotherhood specific event or whatever, where girls aren’t going to be of any use, like initiation and stuff.</p>
<p>Mm, I can touch on this. I went to a mixer for a new sorority that’s being attempted on campus when they were mixing with a frat (that of which i had been to the week before, really chill guys). Unfortunately, I didn’t remember any of the guys’ names, since I had spent most of my time there dancing/chilling/talking with my transfer kids posse. (As a side note, the ladies in the mixer were 80% transfer girls who were starting this new chapter and invited us to come along too.)</p>
<p>They let me and two other guys in with the girls just fine, but after the party winded down, as we were literally in the coat room getting our stuff to leave, two frat guys cornered me and one of my transfer girl’s boyfriend and asked us what the eff we were doing here. The girls tried to explain before we could say anything but the guys were just like, ‘no, you’re fine, but what are THEY doing here?’ and we just kinda made something up, had a little meet n’ greet and I got off easy, but they were really dick about it. The only reason they cornered us like that was because the party was dead and they were just now noticing us as ‘the-guys-we-don’t-recognize-as-pledges’.</p>
<p>Bottom line, all parties will accept the ladies. Frat houses tend to not take the guys unless you show up with a posse of girls (which i’ve done all week, haha). Some frats are probably way cooler and nicer than others about this. Obviously, you just have to know someone on the inside. Frankly, I found it ■■■■■■■■ that they let us in to begin with if they were gonna pull something like that (even if they thought we were pledges at first; seriously? You don’t recognize the guys you JUST asked to join your house?). A house should treat their guests as guests regardless of who they are or if not, don’t have an open door to begin with.</p>
<p>Moral of the story- If you are an outside guy, leave before the party winds down.</p>
<p>^—hahaha, exactly. we were all downstairs at like 2am then realized ‘wait…where is everyone?’</p>