Calming the parents down on move-in day?

<p>I move in later this week and my family is already starting to get emotional. I know they're going to be a mess on the big day. How can I get them to calm down and stop crying?!</p>

<p>Don't get me wrong, I love them, I just don't want them to be crying the whole time I'm moving in. It honestly makes me feel bad for leaving.</p>

<p>You can't. You just deal with it. Its a big day for them as well.</p>

<p>Oh, seriously, I just moved in today and it's a mess!! Parents are nuts! it was just crazy all day and I'm finally getting time to myself sort of now, parents went to their hotel before they come back for 'parent orientation' stuff tomorrow. It's crazy, let's just say that! :)</p>

<p>you're not alone.
other freshmen parents will be like that too
like my mom</p>

<p>Xanax. or a Percocet. Or if you want to calm them down on the cheap a good slap to the face works well for women and men alike.</p>

<p>30 CC of diethyl, administer straight to the neck.</p>

<p>OK let me throw this out. I am a parent my son is our only child. He will be attending my alma mater and tomorrow is move in day. I for one am so excited for him. Because I know that the next four years will be the best years in his life.</p>

<p>My wife is going to be a wreck. But hey we are only 5 hours away plus with skype, facebook, texting, and free phone calls. We will stay connected.</p>

<p>Consider this, when I was a freshman we didnt have cell phones, skype, facebook, even worse a long distance call would cost you $5.00 and back then $5.00 was $5.00.</p>

<p>I am sure my wife MOM will be a mess. But that is OK. It is only natural. We move him in tomorrow and convocation is not until Friday. I told my son to foget the fact that we are in town. When I was first starting the first few days at the dorm where crucial that is when most friendships are started.</p>

<p>So you guys be patient with us old folks. Remember you have been our lives for the past 18 years. Dont forget that.</p>

<p>I move in tomorrow and it's not even 9am here and my mom has asked me 5 times since 7:30 if I'm sure I want to go or if I changed my mind, she wouldn't be mad. I think it's kinda cute. I've never been away from home for an extended period of time, so I taught her how to Skype. I expect water works tomorrow, but I'm okay with it. I am anticipating constant phone calls for the first week though.</p>

<p>Parent here.</p>

<p>I am putting on my 'its just like summer camp' mind-set - the kid will be back and forth, he isn't leaving forever. When he puts down a year long lodging lease and/or gets MARRIED - now those two actions are heavy duty separation movements that will pale next to sending him off to college.</p>

<p>Yeah, right <em>sniff</em></p>

<p>Would you rather your parents didn't give a $&)@ you were leaving their home after 18 years?</p>

I know that the next four years will be the best years in his life.


<p>That's a pretty bold statement to make when your son hasn't even lived out his years past college yet. </p>

<p>Side note: I'm happy for all you freshmen. Move in day is a big deal. Don't worry, my mom had water works the week of me leaving. Take it as a compliment and as a sign of your parents caring.</p>

<p>When I was a freshman, my dad would not leave, not because he couldn't let me go, but because he has ocd and was constantly rearranging everything in my room. Then he proceeded to give my suitemates a 30 minute lecture about how crazy college was in the 70's. He cared obviously, but he was also trying to relive his youth vicariously through me (apparently he had a really good time).</p>

<p>It's called attachment theory. The emotional and physical bond between a parent and a child will be detached physically. Sometimes students get moody, angry, in denial and sad when packing up for college. They are torn between moving away to college because they worked hard for this moment vs. leaving the comfort and stability of a home. Parents will go through this by sadness.</p>

<p>I say, embrace the anxiety. The best years of your life will embark this fall.</p>