<p>Eh, good point about the chastity, Hanna.</p>
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<p>“…That information is veritably DEFINED by heterosexuality, with one half of it being marked by exactly one male, my father, and another half of it being marked by exactly one female, my mother. It is that fact, I think, that makes me and every other human on this planet, a heterosexual. When I look at human behaviors, I see only one sexually defining behavior that reflects this biological identity, and homosexuality ain’t it. I am looking for a way around this. I cannot just ignore it.”</p>
<p>This is a case of incomplete information, Drossel. May I respectfully suggest that you obtain some further education on the subject.</p>
<p>What you deem simple biology is not so simple. You are looking at the physical body and assuming that it is an indication of gender. It’s an easy mistake to make, but there is no doubt about it, it IS a mistake.</p>
<p>Recently there was a documentary on tv about transgenders/transsexuals. I watched it in fascination, because I was curious and wanted to understand these ‘aberrations’ of humanity better. (Here I mean aberration not as derogatory but simply to acknowledge that they are not very common; although, they seem to be more common than people realize.)</p>
<p>Their stories were heartwrenching! There was this beautiful woman, entirely feminine. Then ‘she’ told her story about being born in a male body. All of her life s/he felt at odds with her body. As a child, she was teased for being wimpy and preferring to play with dolls. S/he tried to deny her feelings and actually got married. But, a few years later, she recognized that s/he was simply a female SOUL trapped inside a male body. Fortunately, her/his wife was entirely supportive, although it was hard for her. But she realized that true love meant being supportive of her mate’s happiness. By then the marriage had ended for various reasons, but the wife chose to remain her husband’s side, not as a wife, but as a best friend. And the husband went thru a sex change operation, and at last felt fulfilled and happy. At last she felt like a normal human being.</p>
<p>This was a heartwrenching story but was but one of many. I had never realized just what these people went thru, and it was quite an eye opener.</p>
<p>One of my son’s best friends is a lesbian. She told us that she is considering a sex change operation. We’ve known this girl since she was a child and had long suspected she was gay. (I honestly have no idea how they go from female to male, but that is something I don’t really want or need to know.)</p>
<p>Drossel, it might help in your search for truth if you take a look at individual people in this situation. See them as REAL people and see if you can find some understanding and compassion for what they are going thru. Just as you told me I can never fully understand what it’s like to be Black, so too can you never fully understand what it’s like to be BORN gay. Because, although some of them might be gay due to environmental factors, it is a FACT that many ARE born gay, and that is completely overlooked by the ‘Christians’ who say they are abominations/sinners. </p>
<p>Your philosophy, from what you’ve said, would seem to indicate that they are somehow ‘mistakes’ in God’s creation and therefore disposable. By that logic, then anyone with any defect - people with cancer, children born with handicaps, etc. - would be defective to God and therefore disposable.</p>
<p>Do you really think God is like that?</p>
<p>If you believe in Jesus, then why are you ignoring his example? He associated with the social outcasts of his day, much to the dismay of the self-righteous religious leaders of the time. He even chastised them for judging the sinners. He said ‘let he who is without sin cast the first stone’ in defense of the prostitute. </p>
<p>Christians would agree that prostitution is ‘sinning’ so why is homosexuality any different? (assuming it were even a ‘sin’ to begin with) I don’t see Christians making a big deal about denying prostitutes the right to marry. </p>
<p>Bottom line is, it’s not as simple as you make it out to be, Drossel. You are looking at the physical but completely ignoring the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. We are more than just physical beings. We have hearts and minds and souls. Gays do too, and sometimes their hearts and minds and souls, and even their hormones, are at odds with their plumbing.</p>
<p>By this definition, they are no more ‘evil’ than someone whose body is crippled but their minds still active. Both are situations in which the mind/spirit is not in sync with the body.</p>
<p>Gays live their lives in constant turmoil and conflict, trying to fit in with society and make peace with their sexuality. Many try to deny their homosexuality by getting married. But, often, they do not find happiness until they acknowledge who they really are. There are many cases of older people who finally came out of the closet, and some even got sex change operations, when they were in their 40s or 50s or even older. That show had some cases where the person had grown kids. They interviewed the kids and they were supportive and said their dad/mom was still the same person and they still loved them.</p>
<p>I invite you to look at the human side of this. Research this issue, and not just from the ‘gays are sinners’ viewpoint. That would be like trying to find out what it’s like to be Black by asking whites! Research it from the viewpoint of the actual people who know something about it because they’ve lived it.</p>