<p>So a guy friend of mine has/had a girlfriend on the other side of the country (she’s in boston, we’re in CA). He cheated on her. With me. It was a drunken hookup. The girl and I had been friendly, but not close.</p>
<p>I feel bad, he feels bad, but honestly, there is something there, and we both agree.</p>
<p>He told her, she won’t talk to him, he wants to get together with me, and I’d kind of like to see where it goes. It’s been two and a half weeks.</p>
<p>Is this a horrible idea always, or just usually?</p>
<p>Just remember, if he cheated on her with you, chances are it’ll happen again – even if it was just a drunken hookup, so while I am not saying you shouldn’t do it, I would suggest you ask yourself first whether you’d be willing to forgive him unconditionally for cheating on you while drunk.
If the answer is yes, then by all means go for it. (Assuming, of course, that this other girl shows no signs of forgiving him first.)</p>
<p>Without even knowing your history, I can probably assume it’s the intrigue you have for being the other woman that’s propelling this “interest” you have. If it started as just two drunk people being drunk, do you really think it’s going to be much more than that in the long run?</p>
<p>If he cheated on his old girlfriend, whats to say he won’t cheat on you. It is more than likely, in fact, that he WILL cheat on you. MULTIPLE TIMES, DRUNK OR NOT.</p>
<p>The same thing happened to one of my good friends from HS. He and his new girlfriend have been going a good year and a half now. Sometimes it works…I guess. What a terrible lesson for future generations.</p>
<p>cheating never ends well. maybe he may cheat on you in a future. if he wanted to have something with you, he should have ended the relasionship with her firts and then have something with you…believe me i’m talking from my own experience. if you reeeeeeally like him and he has proven to really like you go for it, but remember there is no hurry so make him wait. that may work. ok simply keep friends. anyways she is not the problem here since she not a friend of yours</p>
<p>once a cheater always a cheater. It has been proven!!! The same way you entered the relashionship is they way youll get out of it. Men dont change. But if you want it very bad you have to be carefull and know that you wont be worried 24/7 about him or what he is doing.</p>
<p>First of all, make sure he and his gf have broken up…</p>
<p>Yeah go for it, why not. It’s better than nothing, just don’t expect 100% loyalty. But who cares, not like you’re marrying the guy. Who knows, it could turn out well.</p>
<p>The only problem I see is that if you ever have to spend an extended time apart, will he stay committed? You might want to inspect his relationship with his last girlfriend to figure out if he is actually able to commit, or just moves one when the current person moves out of reach. </p>
<p>Of course if you are just horny and curious, and have no care for long-term, then by all means go for it. But otherwise, its ONLY been 2.5 weeks.</p>