Can't make friends in college

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Im screwed either way…guys only want something from me…and for girls, well, lets say I don’t get along with them.
I am a good looking gamer girl, hardcore nerd, and I love that about myself…Do not judge me already, I DO NOT, and despise slut chick nerd posers, show it off. I am a open-minded laid back awesome chick…ill talk about anything, and never judge…and somehow…it seems impossible to get a group of friends…I have many casual friends…but i would love a group that shares my interest and have my back…like soul sisters…I had learned, after so many experienes…cannot keep guy friends. They mold themselves to be like me…n once i tell them I have a bf or not interested in dating…they completely don’t want nothing to do with me. It hurts me bad, because I think im such an awesome person, not even worth keeping a friendship?..now…for girls…

I am a nerd trapped in a pretty girl body. Sounds weird but it’s true. I use to be chunky n hide in my video games and anime. Now that i am grown up, my personality didn’t seem to keep up. I love dressing up nice and make up, shopping…and no one would ever guess I love anime, video games, and comics more than anything…Anywhoo, talking to dorky ,nerdy, sometimes a lil unattractive (i don’t ever care about appearances) girls seem to be intimidating by me; i am being honest, n just trying to figure out assumptions. I have good social skills but…when i try and make girl friends at anime conventions or comicon ( since they would have the same interest) they are too immature or simply never interested in associating with a tall skinny girly girl like me…talking to girly girls in general are usually not into nerdy things so my conversations with them is minimum…I am not conceded :frowning: i promise, i just wish i knew a solution…is it me…or them?

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play world of warcraft either way i’d just make boys think differently on me with maybe having some kind of a bit rude manner with them so they appreciate more you I dont know depends on everything…

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Theres no fixed rule so its hard just mndcrafting what will happen.Try hanging out with boys more i think so girls will have a moment of jealosy maybe.And remember not to care others opinions just be yourself!

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Don’t worry you’ll find the right people sooner or later. And even if you can’t you’ll be able to find people who will accept you the way you are. I’m 20 years old already and I’m still into collecting Pokemon cards, I watch anime all the time, and play games (I’m a girl as well). I haven’t exactly found people with my same interests, but I’ve found people who I can still hang out with and be myself around. Sure it’ll be nice to have someone whose like me, but it’s okay. Don’t feel like there’s something wrong with you because you are who you are. Girls who don’t like you are probably from jealousy and how guys perceive you it could just mean you came across immature ones.

Does your college have clubs such as Japan club? Anime club? Try joining those I’m sure you’ll be able to find friends with the same interests. Good luck!

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I had that problem too. But I then realized that less friends is equal to more time to get to know yourself. You can also get random things fine that you never had the chance to do. Friends will come (they did for me) but that’s after you stop worrying about it and doing your own thing. I hope this helped :wink: