<p>We are on the West Coast with a S at a well-known East Coast HADES. We fell in love with the aura of NE school tradition and name power. S has not adjusted well and we are now considering taking him out of BS. Some of his “lack of success” I attribute to his being so far away. If we lived closer, we would be able to see sports game, take him out to dinner and know better his teachers and dorm parents, etc. If we lived closer, we would have had a better pulse on his “feeling lost” and helped him navigate much sooner and probably to a better result. If we were closer, we would not feel terrible about when he was badly injured in baseball last spring and all we could do was feel his pain (and alone-ness) from so far away. Why do these things matter? Simply because most 14/15/16 year olds still need the guidance and support of their parents. Teachers/Coaches/Faculty are very busy and simply NOT there like a parent would be. Frankly, our hopes for a wonderful BS experience has been dashed–but for purposes of this thread, I sometimes wonder if he had chosen a school closer to home, perhaps the outcome would have been much, much better.</p>