CC Peace Summit

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<p>With all the turmoil in the world–tensions rising in the Middle East, famines in Darfur, brutality in Nepal, and mounting tensions (home and abroad) over healthcare, aids, oil prices, abortion, poverty and global warming it is indeed disheartening to find so many loyal CC’ers leaving our fold. And over what? What is really at stake here? What principles have really been compromised? There has been much lashing out, accusations, hurt feelings and a mulitude of misunderstandings. </p>

<p>Because of strict CC rules, no one (not a single soul) knows what and why things have happened the way they did. There is no hard evidence, nothing shown ‘beyond reasonable doubt’. I’m sorry to have to say this but this dramatatic leave-taking does not leave a good example for our children. What hope does one have for world peace if we MT parents (we’re talking singing and dancing, people) can’t even get along!!!:confused:</p>

<p>There are no winners in the blame game. Before anyone else decides to retreat, I implore that we all extend one another an olive branch. Take a deep cleansing breath and try to make a new start.</p>

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<p>I would like to see the board return to a more civilized exchange of ideas and information. A recent study showed that approximately 50% of emails were misinterpreted as to “implied tone or intent”. I think this is quite possibly true, especially when reading people you have never met or spoken to. If I IM a friend, they are likely to pick up on joking, sarcasm, concern, etc., where on a public forum, who knows? </p>

<p>So - try to be gentle in what you say. Re-read, rethink before hitting that send button. Then, if you read something and it strikes you the wrong way, don’t feel that the best plan is automatically go for the jugular.</p>

<p>Try to keep posts on-topic and brief – sometimes a good nugget of information is buried in something so long that readers scan and give up.</p>

<p>Take advantage of the email and PM functions. Do thousands of people have to read hundreds of people congratulating “Jonny Q?” Great to be supportive - but if it extends the thread by 20 or 30 pages, is it worth it? “My D, initials BD, knows your S’s friend, initials DA” - Take it private!!!</p>

<p>You are correct in that the board doesn’t know what happened to initiate certain departures. But, it is obvious that some have been forced, and some have been voluntary. If people are allowed to post, then they are leaving voluntarily, and I think it is certainly fine, within the TOS limits, to tell that they are doing so and why. If it makes remaining members reexamine their online actions, and return to a friendlier site, then it will have served a worthwhile purpose. If not - ah well, one can’t save the world.</p>

<p>If someone is voluntarily leaving, who has appeared in the past to be a caring, reasoned person who has provided immeasurable help and support to others, I think it definitely raises the issue of proper online communications.</p>

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<p>I agree - this board has been so valuable to me over the last year - and I know my daughter has benefitted (even though she thought everyone was crazy at first). About this time last year, there was conflict on the board, but then it settled down. Let do the same this year?</p>

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<p>I am a fairly new “poster”, but have been lurking for a couple of years. I have no idea what has happened, but I am truly saddened that people are leaving!! I will be somewhat weary of posting now. You have all helped me and my d out tremendously over the past two years…for this I thank you!</p>

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<p>I too must admit that because I am in the dark as to what has happened here recently I will be far more cautious about posting. It’s that feeling of “walking on eggshells” so to speak.</p>

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<p>I am sad and puzzled by all this mystery, but without commenting on that, I just want to say that although I do not post often, I visit this board almost every night. It has helped me beyond measure. I know that my D and I would be much further behind in this process if I had not happened upon it. She is attending CMU Pre-College this summer and we would not even have known about it if not for this board. We have visited colleges that I learned about on this board. She is much more focused because of info I have gleaned from this board. I hope that people do not become discouraged and stop posting, and I intend to post as I have info to share during the coming audition year. Thank you to all who have helped us thus far, I hope we can return the favor.</p>

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<p>Well said! I heartily agree. It’s very quiet and gloomy here today! I hope that this forum can get back to the info sharing place that it was meant to be.</p>

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<p>Nobody should be “walking on eggshells”. It’s not necessary, and makes the forum messy. :)</p>

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<p>Making light of a seriously flawed situation does not help amend things. The fact IS that the nature of this forum has been changed, and dealing with it directly would be a more appropriate way to move forward.</p>

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<p>We don’t discuss moderation or mod actions in the public forum, but any member with a question can PM me or a specific mod if there’s a question.</p>

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<p>As a student poster, I somehow feel that a college message board has little relation to tensions in the middle East and gas prices, and I certainly would never think to compare the 2. This is JUST a message board, guys. A wonderful message board, but an online message board none the less. If someone wants to leave, that’s their choice. I dont see why everyone is making a mountain out of a mull hill.</p>

<p>I’d also like to add that some people on here take this whole thing a little too seriously. This is just a place for people to get help with the college process. Lets not lose sight of that. I’m a student, and sometimes I’ll read posts ENTIRELY from parents. “my son this” and “my daughter that” and if this whole online confrontation thing is being caused by people who arent even students, then I think they need to re-evaluate why they’re here. Its one thing to be involved in your child’s life (which is something I fully support) and its another thing to become obsessed with it through a message board, and then in turn have to leave or get kicked off. It just seems that if you’re doing something so badly on a message board that you should be asked to leave, it seems like you shouldnt have been here in the first place and you’ve missed the purpose of CC</p>

<p>I’m sorry if I seem like a jerk… please understand that Im far from it. but as a student poster here, this is how I feel. I love CC, but I dont lose sleep over anything that goes on here</p>

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<p>I have been reading the posts regarding deviseness on this board and I have not been sure what I want to add, but I’ll try. I agree MTGeek that we parents can sometimes take this too seriously. This is the first online communication I have experienced, unlike my D and her friends who are very comfortable with meeting people and sharing online. This is certainly not yet a comfortable way to communicate, it often feels one-sided and as if one is talking to air. I have found myself obsessed with the latest information here and I have found myself having feelings about controversy and people leaving when I really have no idea what the facts are. So I have reminded myself that this board is a tool. A very useful tool during a stressful time in the life of parents and students. Yes, parents can get overinvolved… this is scary for us too and some of us feel like we can cope better if we have more and more information.
Sorry for being long winded. I also thought an earlier comment that this time last year there were problems on cc was interesting… There may be a connection to the cycle of college acceptances, decisions, etc… and heightened emotion.</p>

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<p>Evasmom- I completely understand. College time is scary. Especially for parents who are paying for it. And naturally everyone wants the best for their kids. But sometimes its better just to let go, and let your kid do some things on their own. Wait for them to ask for help before running to their rescue. My mom is a single mom and works full time and just doesnt have the time or the patience to be as involved in my life as close as we are. I’ve learned so many valuable lessons on my own that my mom could never teach me. i think its important for moms and dads to remember that before getting too head over heals in their kids social lives</p>