No disagreement - OP stated they wanted to save for the family but if they can find the right program and can afford it.
My guess is the Ok State, K State, Nebraskas will be on the cheaper end of the spectrum. All fine schools.
Nebraska may offer the Chancellor’s Tuition Scholarship for National Merit (it doesn’t say Finalist): Recipients are awarded full non-resident portion of tuition plus $4,000 per year for up to four years.
Note: National Merit Scholars may qualify for an additional $500 stipend in partnership with the National Merit Scholarship Corporation.
In state tuition this year is $11,100 so that makes it $7,100. Add Room and Board and you’re in the low 20s.
Even without, UNL will be competitive.
K State - not sure if they take your weighted or they re calc - but with a 3.9+, you get OOS tuition waived - so that’s $26,346 this year including room and board.
OK State you’re either getting $14.5K or $15K - depending on which GPA - your 1460 SAT gets you there.
Right now that’s $41,940 so take off $14.5K and you’re mid-high $20s.
Bottom line, all three schools will be, likely not much more than the Florida schools!!
So you can have your cake and eat it too in some ways!!