We’ve heard this before and then the person comes back and says - well they will contribute $10K vs. - they’ll pay anything for me to go to such and such a school.
In this type of instance, you need to get all the details down - and ensure they mean what they say. Many folks mean well but don’t realize school can be $400K.
You can, of course, find schools in NY (less than 20K) and elsewhere at $20K with merit but you have to be open to attending a school - which you should - someone willing to throw money at you is awesome.
You can only take out $27K in loans - so that’s not an option - and you don’t want to be hamstrung financially. You’ll do fine with any ABET accredited ChemE program - including Bing and SB or an Alabama, etc or hopefully a school that interests you.
Questbridge is another great possiblity.