agree, 100%. I am always sad when kids haven’t had any communications with their parents, or parents have been super vague.
Though also on these boards, people seemingly ignore the fact that at the top private a large percentage of students are full pay. It isn’t rare (Colby, it is over 50%, Princeton over 40%). Sometimes, people on CC seem not to believe students when they say their parents can/will pay. 
It may be that fewer of these people are on CC. If you are a billionaire ,you have private counselors, but if you are a ‘normal’ full pay ,you may be relying on your normal private school counselor only and may well be on here.