Many Colleges that change lives would work for what you want.
“Safety: Evergreen State College, CWU”
=> Seconding the person who said SOU would be a much better fit for a safety.
Elmhurst would another good fit safety, not sure about it making budget.
StMichael’s (VT) is in a very LGTBQ friendly city and they have merit.
Likely: Willamette
Hendrix, Earlham (not LGTBQ friendly surroundings though)
Match: perhaps apply EA to Muhlenberg to make it a match? Sounds like a good fit. Run the NPC.
Other good matches: (seconding) Agnes Scott, SUNY Geneseo
I would have said UNC Asheville for sure but I don’t know what shape they’re in after the devastating floods.
“Reach: Yale (I know it’s incredibly unlikely but it’s been my dream school for a while), Bowdoin,”
Unreachable. I understand your GPA is likely severely impacted by the F in math but go to the forums and see the profile of people turned down.
“Reed”
Not sure it’s the right fit and definitely a reach.
"Lewis and Clark*
This is a match and a good fit.
St Olaf, Mount Holyoke, and Whitman are other reachable reaches. You’d have to apply ED to one of them to have a good shot.