Sounds less like Top 30 than “Schools my parents have heard of.” The Top 30 differs based on what ranking you’re looking at and what they’re trying to sell. Others have pointed out that there are schools that are better at what you say you want to study than the ones your parents may have heard of, so I would recommend cross-tabbing those they find acceptable with ones who need a clarinetist, which is the strongest part of your profile.
You’ve got an objectively great record on paper, but the schools I suspect you’re thinking about have an abundance of kids with your profile or better. Outside of the clarinet, I’m not sure how you stand out at Williams which is small and UMich who get a ton of great applicants. Why do they have to have you? That’s the question you have to answer, and respectfully, I don’t see how state schools that have small slots for out of staters and small schools and Ivies (little or big) answer this positively for you.
Eventually you’re going to have to face the fact that you need to expand your list beyond the schools that every kid with a great application applies to. Which to me means you need to start educating your parents on some of these other schools. And yourself, maybe.
Good luck.