Thanks for clarifying about Vassar @cinnamon1212. I didn’t know there was a train line to NYC from Vassar; that definitely bumps it up on my list.
I think a sound policy at this point is to apply EDI to a school like Middlebury or Bowdoin and, in case of rejection, apply EDII to Vassar due to their preference for male applicants. I’d love to go to any of these schools!