<p>We gave small gifts of chocolate or homemade cookies to the dorm mother and other dorm proctors when we’d arrive to pick up D for the break, but never to teachers.</p>
<p>D gave gifts at the end of the year to certain teachers and dorm proctors with whom she’d had a more personal relationship. It seemed more appropriate for her rather than us parents to recognize them since they “lived” together on campus.</p>