Love the term “redirection”. Something else someone said “Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was being redirected to something better”. Good thought to hold on to during this process.
Lets not forget the 100s or maybe 1000s that just read the post. I would prefer to be a “lurker” myself but feel obligated to post now and then just because this site has been so helpful and supportive. And misery loves company. like one of the previous post plan to post results at the end, when the story is finished and we have a grand finale to share!
Redirection, to my ears, also encompasses a BA offer from a school where the applicant sought BFA placement or even an Acting or Vocal Performance BFA offer at a school where the student auditioned for MT. A wide variety of responses including “We regret that we are unable to offer you an audition” as a reply to prescreening submission could be labeled ‘Redirection’.
Different strokes on what gets disclosed. Those feeling a sting may prefer to nurse that wound in private. Those who receive early admissions offers may choose not to share them so as not to amplify the disappointment others may be feeling. There can be a ‘notches on the belt’ appearance to public sharing that may feel distasteful to some. You do you! Don’t worry about how anybody else chooses to behave here.
This is the students’ journey and it is the students’ call what gets disclosed and when. I know there are some schools where kids post their acceptances and rejections on a big bulletin board in the hallway. At other schools, students wear the t-shirt of the school they plan to attend on a particular day. At some schools, the subject is not discussed much among the students and outcomes are only shared with the closest friends. Like it or not, college applications are a competitive process. Some families have a culture in which publicly discussing one’s “wins” is considered inappropriate - rather like talking about money.
As far as this particular group goes, it certainly seems to attract posts from the most highly-invested parents. Whether that investment (of emotion, of time, of money and so on) will be reflected in a higher percentage of “successes” is hard to say. Whether those BFA ‘wins’ will translate into longer more stable careers is even harder to discern.
This is not a profession in which a degree is given much weight. The graduate’s skills will be what carries him/her into the future. Connectedness to others entering the profession around the same time may determine, to a certain extent, some job opportunities, particularly in the early years. Ultimately, despite admissions outcomes, a performer’s future is impossible to predict. What parents can do is keep the focus on making art and seeking joy. Setting up a narrower view of what ‘success’ looks like is folly, in my seldom humble opinion.
I’m having a down day. Worried haven’t done enough.
D’s story
Soprano. Tall. Blond. Funny and a bit quirky
On stage at our local youth theater since age 4. 46 shows.
Even though we are a small southern city, our Director taught at NYU. Came home to care for ailing parents 20+ years ago and never left
She has done one summer intensive. The director sheepishly told me that no one expected much from the southern girl, and that she blew them away with her talent. Regional bias!!!
Particularly loves Shakespeare. Does period costumes very well
Loves Fosse! Studied that one summer in NY. That was great cause Bob Fosse always put a tall girl in the middle
Her idol is Sierra Boggess and sounds a lot like her
I’m sure tomorrow will be a better day. Will be so glad when this is over
@winnieroot - Don’t think about what you could have/should have done. You’ve done all that you can as a parent in this process. You’ll see, your daughter will likely blow away an auditor or two and all will be well. It’s really out of your control now - you have done all you can - just take the ride and enjoy the time you have with your daughter during this audition season. This fall she will be off to some where studying what she loves and loving everything about it. Tomorrow will be a better day 
Daughter’s school had a “wall of shame” in the lunchroom which had a bulletin board on it that at the top said, “I didn’t want to go there anyway” in big letters and then below it, seniors who wanted to would pin their rejection letters. I always thought it was amusing and possibly cathartic.
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@halflokum I LOVE THE “wall of shame”!
@vocal1046 your so right about kids wanting to share versus not sharing. I have to say I think my son is taking a much healthier approach to this then I am. I’ll ask him where his closes friends are applying and he doesn’t have a clue. I have to wait til they come over. Then you can tell in about 2 seconds whether or not they want to share. Some kids will talk about every single school they applied too and others will just say “I don’t know” and thats the end of the conversation.
Praying for everybody headed to NY Unifieds this weekend. BAL!
I think it might be fun to turn the refrigerator into a “sour grapes” wall.
BAL to all attending NY Unifieds this weekend! Our countdown to Chicago continues!
Countdown is on! Leaving for NYC in a few hours! Hope to see some CC’rs…I will be in a long black down coat My S only has one audition @ Pearl, but hopefully some walkins 
Break Legs kids and parents alike!!!
Does anyone know how many attend unifieds at NYC vs Chicago vs LA? (both # of schools and # of auditionees) Not important- just curious. I was under impression that Chicago was the largest, and LA the smallest attendance wise (which would obviously leave NYC somewhere in between)- but I could be totally incorrect
Has anyone experienced this?
My D is at audition. After she turned to leave for her audition, my eyes welled up and, for at least 5 minutes, I had to fight not to burst into tears! This isn’t her first college audition, but it’s a program that kind of symbolizes where she is in this adventure, as she has looked up to this program for years. Plus, Unifieds are here, and that seemed like such a future event after all of this planning and researching, etc. It just felt like a momentous, I-can’t-believe-we’re-here-after-all-of-this-time moment with a smidgen (or more) of disbelief that she’s this age, all mixed in with a lot of excitement. Exciting, unbelievable, a bit nerve wracking, everything…
I just can’t believe I was actually crying, lol!
I think that impression is correct, @toowonderful. Think of say, Texas State that only goes to Chicago. We chose Chicago unifieds because it seemed that more schools would be there and there are more days to complete those auditions than NY.
BAL to all those heading out to NYC! Prayers and well wishes to the parents too!
I told my S to keep the rejection letters so that if he becomes famous he can laugh at the letters and use them to give others hope.
@myloves - I had a moment like that last year- CMU auditions. It had seemed so "holy grail"ish, and D wanted it SO much, and the odds were SO slim. She had worked hard to be prepared, and I just wanted her to feel that she had given it her all. So when she came out and told us she had been passed to Barbara and felt it was the best she had ever done with her pieces etc I had a huge “I can’t believe it/this is surreal” moment (though following D’s edict- all emotions/comments etc were held till we were out of the building and in the car- then there was a general freak out!!) And even though she wasn’t accepted in the end- she was at peace with it, b/c she knew she had down what she could, and done it well. It’s strange b/c she loved that school so much, but I would say it was the least disappointing rejection. Funny world…
I completely understand why it was her least disappointing rejection @toowonderful! Because all one can ever hope for is a “nailed it” audition. The rest is, out of their control. If they went in and were their very best self, they have succeeded. It is a complete and unqualified Victory. Period. The result truly does not matter. Why? Because if your best wasnt “right” or “good enough” that is disappointing, but acceptable because you simply were not capable of better. If your type was wrong, well, that’s not your fault. Nothing will change that.
It is those auditions where one has regrets. Where, for whatever reason you didnt show your best. Where you walk out and say “if only” I had done X or Y differently. Or why did I sing that way, I never did that before. Because then you look back and think, well, they didnt get to see my best, so I’ll never know if I couldve made it there. They never saw it. THAT is a downer. That is, a “fail” as my daughter says.
I completely agree @tramsmom - and D (like everyone else at some point or other) had those too. When real disappointments happened we talked about “what do we learn from this”, (because there is always something to learn) and try to move on to the next step.