<p>As an international male student, I am going to apply to some PhD programs in the USA. I would like to know which top universities have a larger proportion of male students with a profile similar to mine: Caucasian, older than 25, into maths and completely closeted,i.e. I want to meet guys who date guys but do it as secretely as possible.</p>
<p>I am serious about this…I am not looking for casual adventures only (but no way “romance” either), but people to make friends with and maybe more…
For what it may matter, I am into the style of Sage Brocklebank (from TV series “Psych”) or Al Gore…</p>
<p>Any help will be appreciated!! And only serious answers please…</p>
<p>Yeah, Berkeley…As far as I can see from the websites, Stanford has a lot of sexy nerds, does not it?
And what about institutions out of San Francisco?</p>
<p>Well, I’m running off the assumptions that:</p>
<p>a) If you are gay you will seek that out as a factor in where you want to go to college, as you have just demonstrated. Thus being near San Francisco would be a good idea.
b) As I have yet to meet anyone who is openly gay at Berkeley, judging by assumption a, the people here must be pretty discrete about it.</p>
<p>It’s not something I can speak of with any certainty, but I’ve seen gay couples around the campus, so it must be partly true.</p>
<p>Um, it sounds like you need therapy in a big way.</p>
<p>And I’m happy to say that any halfway decent school, by definition, will attract lots of creative, bright people who don’t have hangups with sexuality - their own or anyone else’s.</p>
<p>Oh, and Berkeley is <em>HARDLY</em> a school of closet cases. It’s perhaps the US school most stuck in the 60s, and the Naked Guy was for years a beloved fixture in town. If a naked man roaming around town for a decade or so didn’t faze anybody, you getting it on with some math geek is hardly going to scandalize the city.</p>
<p>Let me summarize your post: you want to go to a school where you can have lots of sex with guys whom you can then ignore afterwards. Yeah, you sound like a great catch.</p>
<p>Please do us all a favor and stay where you are.</p>
<p>I think that what the original poster is looking for is not a gay community, but a place packed with nerds (who have no perspective better than jerking off…) who secretely “accept” or “tolerate as a substitute” date him casually…
Incidentally: My God, I never thought that any person (woman or man) could ever find anything interesting in Sage Brocklebank (!!!) or Al Gore…
I respect gays, but I cannot understand this one</p>
<p>to ParaguayIsCool:
I am not looking for casual sex - I just want guys who do not want to disclose themselves. If I go out with a guy and, later, he and I agree and feel like, we will be able to keep having our encounters - always secreteley and without any need to label it romance. </p>
<p>to joaoabreu:
You are right when you say that I do not need a gay community. Yeah! I want secret!! But, are you saying that I need awkward and shy straight guys who, because do not feel talented or attractive enough to hit on girls, accept to have a quick date with a ■■■? Wow…That is a harsh picture…I never thought it existed…Does it happen in the USA?
As for my tastes, that you judge bizarre, I would add one more celebrity whose style I am fond of: Chirs Meloni (Law&Order)…Does anyone know any grad school with guys with that shape?</p>
<p>to all:
Someone advised me to apply for military schools. I would, if there were good grad schools among them…
Can anyone say something about the case of schools around Saint Louis area? Or Atlanta</p>
<p>Go to New York City…Boston. I second Montreal and hear the same about Amsterdam. There are some great grad schools in those cities to look into.</p>
<p>jmleadpipe, this is THE weirdest thread I’ve ever come across on here. And it’s also skeezing me out. Am I the only one who thinks this whole situation is, shall we say, predatory? He’s basically saying he wants to go to schools where he can manipulate other people who have self-esteem issues. Does anyone else not see this?</p>
<p>I repeat my earlier assertion that Nino needs to get into therapy STAT.</p>
<p>Oh, and guys, I don’t think there’s such a thing as a closeted gay guy in either NY or Montreal. (Or in Amsterdam, for that matter.) In Montreal, people go to gay strip clubs with their office, including the straights (seriously.) And in my entire adult life in NY, I met all of one semi-closeted guy, and he was a recent transplant from the South. He’s probably dancing on tables at G now, or something.</p>
<p>I am sorry. My two previous post were intended to another thread!!!</p>
<p>Nino, let me see if I understand you. Are you looking for straight guys who “accept” to engage in gay relationships with you? Is not it contradictory? If they do it, it will be meaning that they are not straight after all…Or can they still be considered that?
And, more than this, are you attracted to straight guys only?? You may be having a lot of difficulty to lead an active romantic life…
Well, there are some things I (as a straight person) really cannot grasp… Shame on me!</p>
<p>I do not believe in labels that much…I find ir perfectly understandable that a straight guy in a very lonely afternoon can have a quick relief with a helping sympathetic queer friend without having to feel queer himself…
I think a lot of straight guys in school life have had occasional experiences like that without feeling hurt after all…</p>
<p>uhm. If you enjoy sex with guys, you’re not straight, you’re either bi or gay. I can’t fathom why anyone would want to stay closeted if they’re somewhere it’s accepted, but then I’ve lived in Northern California my whole life, and homosexuality doesn’t seem like a big issue to me</p>
<p>^^I agree. If you don’t consider yourself gay, the proper term would be bisexual, but this of course implies that you retain some sort of attraction to women: in essence, that you do not really differentiate between the sexes when deciding on a mate.</p>
<p>Yeah. Either you’re gay, bisexual, or at the very least bi-curious. If you think you’re purely heterosexual, you’re in denial.</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong at all (IMHO) with being homosexual, but I don’t care how horny I am, I am not going to be at all interested or will be able to take pleasure from sexual relations with a person of my gender. The fact that you are willing and are even seeking such relations means you’re not purely hetero.</p>