Reading all these posts about how college isnt what its all cracked up to be is making me feel better, knowing that other people are struggling too. I go to a large public school and most of my high school goes there as well. Since I have been here I’ve made one friend from another state but other than that, everyone I talk to is from high school. i wanted to branch out but my roommates always just want to hangout with people from their high school friend group. Also, the one friend i did make is from my group when I rushed, but I didn’t end up joining a sorority so most girls I know are in them and are always busy with sorority stuff and I don’t really know what to do. No one talks in my classes…i just want to find friends and i don’t know where to turn to.
Have you joined clubs, intramural sports, volunteer groups?
Many things in life are romanticized:
- College
- Job
- Vacations
- Marriage
- Parenthood
The best place to find friends that share your interests is to go to forums that are dedicated to your interest. Joining clubs may help.
You have learned one of the big secrets of life. Things aren’t always what they seem. But that reality isn’t necessarily bad. Realizing that many things in life are romanticized helps you to make necessary adjustments so that you can cope. And figuring out how to cope and solve the problem is way more effective than standing there and complaining that you aren’t experiencing the romance. Congratulations to you, now you will figure out how to get involved and slowly make your situation change. Hang in there, be patient, keep trying, it will get better.