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<p>I should note again that many of these tips have worked well for a lot of people despite the fact that they don’t necessarily make sense on the surface. Many of these tips don’t necessarily expose you to new people or sharpen your social skills. But all the social exposure and social skills in the world won’t help a kid who is unhappy, sullen, lacking in confidence, and bordering on desperation. When a kid feels some sense of belonging and trust in his life, he can then start to build real, solid, meaningful, lasting relationships with others. A lot of it is in one’s outlook, and there’s only so much you can conceal.</p>
<p>This post really helped me. Some of you may not think it’s good advice, but different things are helpful to different people.
While I can’t get a pet or some of the other things on the list, just knowing that I’m not the first person this has happened to is helpful.</p>
<p>I love how people throw around the counseling/therapy advice thing so much, as if a solution was that easy. NO ONE ever voluntarily goes to counseling/therapy.</p>
<p>"NO ONE ever voluntarily goes to counseling/therapy. "</p>
<p>That’s complete horse hockey. That said, I don’t think counseling ought to be one’s first stop on the road to overcoming loneliness.</p>
<p>“NO ONE ever voluntarily goes to counseling/therapy.”</p>
<p>Way to make sweeping generalizations. Too bad you’re wrong. Seeking out counseling when there’s a justified need is a sign of maturity.</p>
<p>Whateva happened to Gary Cooper?</p>
<p>"go out and hookup with some random person. "</p>
<p>And then what? Never see her again? Last time I drunkenly hooked up (read: made out) with a chick we never saw each other again. I won’t speak for others, but when I feel lonely it’s generally because I feel like my friends are being distant or that there’s nobody there for me. Not because I haven’t gotten any (I uh satisfy those needs every morning if you catch my drift).</p>
<p>I am very blessed to have a great group to hang out with in college 
- something I never really had in high school because I was so anal about grades, etc. Socially I’m the happiest I’ve ever been lol. </p>
<p>But even I still get lonely so it’s not completely avoidable ;).</p>
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<p>Right, but that loneliness may also be the product of circumstance. Not everyone operates on the same schedule each semester; my schedule has severely affected my social life.</p>
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<p>Uh, reading? :p</p>
<p>yep, reading! lol I miss that thread</p>
<p>I think these are very good points. They might not be exactly feasible for everyone, but I certainly think that some degree of loneliness is to be expected when you leave home for a new environment. In my case, I remember coming to preseason for my sport before college started, and then the night when I moved into my dorms, I was suddenly so homesick I didn’t know what to do. After a few days, I got over it and started enjoying myself by focusing all of my energy into my new life and activities, but it was hard. However, I love it here now - I can’t stand the thought of leaving for a month over break! I think a lot of students would be more relieved and happier to know that they aren’t alone.</p>
<p>making good friends is…friends is easy but good friends is difficult</p>
<p>i was doing my chem lab when i realized it. i would check my phone every 5 mins waiting for a text…and nothing…banning myself from facebook doesnt help either, but im going through this stage
im a commuter and i go to class but i dont really make any quality friends since im always going back home. At the same my work load is exhausting and i find myself studying at the very late hours of the nite…by myself. My friends are either a quarter ahead or behind so classes dont match…sighh</p>
<p>What terrible advice website did you copy and paste this from?</p>
<p>Join a gym, organizaton, get a job or read a book.</p>
<p>Or adopt a dog.</p>
<p>I agree with those who disagree with owning a pet during college. Not only is it a life-long (pet’s life) commitment, there are costs that need to be handled that many college students cannot readily afford. And, what do you do during breaks, especially if you have to fly home?</p>
<p>Personally, I feel the best way to conquer loneliness is to get involved and seek out friends with like interests. I also understand that no mater what advice is given, there are just some young people who are going to be extremely lonely because of other issues such as being too immature to leave home, difficulty getting along with peers because they have poor social skills, getting involved in alcohol or drugs to the point where classes and friendships suffer or a myriad of other extreme issues. </p>
<p>In any case, getting involved and finding friendships are really important whether one is going off to college or relocating to a new place as an older adult.</p>
<p>I’ve had a bit of hard time in high school, and I understand what loneliness really is… it’s a bitter feeling and in my opinion, it really sucks to be all alone where you’ve no one to share something with or spend some quality time with. I REALLY have to agree with the concept of traditional families discussed before the advices and how young people don’t move beyond their family circle, I live in a society where this culture is pretty dominant, I’m a guy but I’m saying this that women are suppressed and undermined in my society, even to this day, people have so ****ed up attitudes about women in my society (I’m from Pakistan if anyone’s wondering) but its nice to see that some women are getting beyond and striving to be more independent (something really worthy of progress for my society).</p>
<p>Coming to the advices, although I’m on a gap year and haven’t enrolled in college yet, I’m sure your advices will come in handy and I will have to get through this phase.
Some quick notes, about advice #7, praying, from experience, CAN actually reduce loneliness. I from experience tried it, and it certainly does give you an assurance of comfort and contentment, and can at times, reduce stress considerably.
Also advice #4 is really something overlooked most of the time, but yh, eating together can actually bring people together, my friends and I have constantly kept together after school with dinners outside in restaurants and even at home, and it does work.</p>
<p>read some tolle bro</p>