Our kids didn’t really date much in HS or college. Our S did date a woman for awhile who lived in a different city from him but after awhile—some months of longer, they broke up. We never met her.
A few years ago, we were visiting S in the city where he lives and he asked if he could bring a friend to dinner and of course we said yes. He admitted they’d been dating awhile—20 months or so. We’ve spent time with them in our subsequent trips to DC.
We told S she’s welcome to come to our home anytime and she was planning to come to HNL 4/2020 for a wedding but then covid cancelled that and so much else.
D told us to just let S take the lead. As far as I know, he’s never met her family at all but she’s met several of our family members and they all get along. We’ve not met any of her family. At this point, they’ve been together maybe 6 years. They sent out joint photo Christmas cards this past December for the 1st time.
We are fine with having as direct things as he prefers.