Even if this isn’t a legit post from this user, I can almost guarantee that somebody’s kid is doing what the OP says her kid is doing, so this thread will be of use to somebody.
I would think a credit card statement might have tipped the parents off?
Thank you for all who have offered your advice, I am a real person, a real mom, really worry about my son, and truly appreciate your suggestions.
We have limited his bank account money for this semester, and will continue to do so.
He lost all his money (he earned last summer by working at couple places) last semester, and we have given him about couple hundred dollars just in case he needs to do something with his friends.
We will definitely talk to him in person again regarding all these relationship and intimacy issues. I am afraid that he is somewhat addicted to porn dating sites.
I seem to remember there was a tv show once with a guy arranging a date with a girl from an escort service, and when the girl showed up at the hotel room, it was his daughter.
I have no problem whatsoever with dating sites. The alarm is that she said “ESCORT SERVICE” and “$3000” of mom’s money (we assume). This does not sound like the usual dating site or like he is trying to meet any girls for the sake of a relationship or like he is having problems making friends. He doesn’t even sound lonely. It sounds like services are exchanged for $$. It isn’t a “relationship” that he has the self control issue with–it’s the not knowing when to say no when an escort asks you for $3000 that was allocated for something else. Poor self control, YES.
I hate to say this–but $3000. Is there any chance he’s doing drugs?
What happened to the post where she posted the escort took had him take $3000 out of his bank, emptying his account? That’s what I’m reacting/referring to but it looks like it was deleted. Argh.
It’s post #6
Oh please. How would someone withdraw $3000 of your bank account money unless you gave them your account number, and permission to do so. Makes NO sense…at all.
Obviously, he gave her his debit card. She maxed it out.
I’ve met medical students use the porn sites. They are charged for every minute. It is easy to get hooked. In large cities, there are specialists they can help with these issues.
For OP, limiting money in account will help.if she chooses to give son a credit card, She can set limits so that she is called before a purchase is made above a certain$ limit.
Wondering why he is not looking for a girlfriend among the girls that attend his college? Have you discussed this with your son? Nothing wrong with online dating but not sure all that many college students go that route since there are so many opportunities to meet each other on a college campus. But the escort thing - I would worry too. I think he could be getting in over his head.
No kid is going to tell their parent this… and no poster is going to come out here and discuss it as a new poster. Just sayin’.