<p>I’m sorry orangemom; but we’re all here for each other, good and not so good.
Ugh, S’ early school hasn’t even released a notification date!!!</p>
<p>Orangemom: I’m so sorry that the news wasn’t good. This process can be brutal for kids and parents.</p>
<p>Sorry Orangemom… Hoping you receive good news soon!!</p>
<p>Just received the email that S’ guidance office sent to the seniors titled “Handling Early Decisions” 
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<p>orangemom, feeling for you. when one door closes another one opens.</p>
<p>Simpkin - sorry about the deferral, but it’s nice to have another acceptance in hand, especially with merit $$'s!</p>
<p>Orangemom - so sorry. Hopefully your s has some other schools that he is excited about? </p>
<p>We just had some great news here, D just got a personal phone call from an admissions counselor at one of her safety schools that she is being recommended for the schools top scholarship. This is a safety that she would be very happy to attend. Hopefully this is a sign of good things to come as we wait for the reach ED decision and if that’s not good news at least this should help to soften the blow.</p>
<p>It is what it is. He will have to figure it out. Surprisingly, I’m ok. </p>
<p>DS2 will have to buck up.</p>
<p>orangemom - sorry it did not work out. I went through bad ED news with S1 three years ago and I remember how tough it was.</p>
<p>As a Bryant guy, I hate Babson anyway. You deserve better. Hope the RD cycle has better news for you. </p>
<p>Try that vodka and celery for dinner.</p>
<p>^^I just recommended Bryant to one of my “late” senior applicants (yes, not everyone has parents on CC…haha)…</p>
<p>orangemom: he’ll be fine…onward and upward…as someone said earlier, sometimes it’s better in December to get a deny than a deferral…time to move on…</p>
<p>Sorry for the bad news Orange. We were really rooting for you, and oh yeah, your son.</p>
<p>I haven’t had a chance to come on in several weeks, but I needed a place to vent and you all are so nice that I figured I could safely do it here. Please forgive me if this has already been discussed here.</p>
<p>My son got an email from the college board this evening saying that his psat scores are now online and that he should click on the link to check his scores, which he excitedly did…</p>
<p>…only to be told that you can’t access the scores online without the access code…which is found on the score report that you’ll get from your guidance counselor!</p>
<p>Of course, once you get the score report from your guidance counselor, you’ll no longer need to go online to get your scores!</p>
<p>Silly me, I thought this must be an error, so I called the College Board and was told that it is indeed true…you must have the access code from the score report to go online and get your scores. OY!!!</p>
<p>Unfortunately, my son goes to an extremely large public high school, so the scores won’t be available for distribution for more than two more weeks.</p>
<p>Does anyone else find this to be, well, ridiculous (not the word I’m actually thinking, but I can’t write that word online)?</p>
<p>I think that as we all navigate the wide world of college admissions - we have to suspend our disbelief at some of the ridiculous hoops we must jump through and the blatant inefficiencies we must endure. Yes - that is absolutely absurd. Am I surprised - not really.</p>
<p>I am surprised they didn’t offer to let you pay to get the PSAT scores, momof3greatkids, like they do for an early peek at the AP’s and SAT’s. CB does have creative ways to make $$…</p>
<p>Momof3: I understand your frustration. Our school system pays for students to take the PSAT, and all scores are sent to them. They then send them to each student, which usually takes weeks. It was very aggravating.</p>
<p>These things shouldn’t surprise me, this is child #3. Somehow, they still do.</p>
<p>orangemom: It is so hard to get these decisions. I remember when my kids got outright rejections from their reaches and I felt like slugging the admission directors that didn’t want my wonderful kid! However, I soon learned that disappointment, and how you deal with it, is the greatest source of character development. My kids went into their room, closed the door (I’m sure cried a few tears) and when they came out, they had focused on those things that they could do something about and moved on to the next hurdle. Two of my kids played competitive sports and I learned to leave them alone after a loss, those moments when they came to terms with disappointment taught them that life goes on and that there is always another game to win (or college to apply to). I know I sound like a sound bite, but this will make him stronger and in the end he might get accepted, but he will know that he can handle bad news and move on. I saw many kids in my kids’ college years totally fall apart after a bad grade or a bad break-up, think of disappointment as a muscle you have to flex sometimes to make you stronger in the long run.</p>
<p>simpkin… My S just got deferred from UVM with 2200 SAT’s and a 3.6 GPA… Eagle Scout, 1500 hrs community service, Internship with National Parks, Rescue diver, First responder, search and rescue team volunteer… has a job and commutes 3 hrs a day to school… I really don’t know what the deal with UVM is??? We just got the letter saying they had a very talented pool…blah, blah blah… but my S is WAY over their accepted average, as by judging from the posts from admitted students on this forum… so I wouldn’t take the UVM deferral as anything… our GC was totally stumped.</p>
<p>Hey 5boys, that is strange – sounds like UVM may have a case of “Tufts Syndrome.” Maybe he needs to let them know if he really wants to go there? When my daughter was applying to colleges, she was wait-listed by the school that was supposed to be her safety, and it was quite shocking and horrible because it was the first decision to come out, but then she was accepted to more selective colleges so it all worked out. </p>
<p>My son’s GPA is quite a bit lower than yours, and his SATs are lower, and he has no impressive ECs; his GC said it was too much of a reach, and I only had him submit the application because it was free. So I’m not surprised by the deferral and his GPA is not improving this year, at all, so I’m pretty sure he’s not getting in to UVM.</p>
<p>sorry about your bad news, orangemom. :(</p>
<p>So sorry orangemom - I feel your pain. Really. When my daughter was rejected from her ED school 6 years ago our entire family felt the sting. She cried for almost a week. I felt the wind was taken out of my sails. She ultimately ended up at our state flagship and had “the best 4 years of her life” but it was devastating at the time. </p>
<p>Now, my son is waiting for his ED Decision (late on the 15th) and I am struggling not to get my hopes up for him. What makes this worse for me is that he is applying to the SAME school that rejected his sister 6 years ago. I feel “once burned, twice shy” on this one. At least I do know, they end up happy in the end!</p>