<p>I’m actually pretty content with the original title. But just for fun - what would the new title be?</p>
<p>Irishdoctor - that was lovely - thank you.</p>
<p>I do not think the thread title is inaccurate. The thread is almost a thousand pages long and the vast majority of it revolves around schools appropriate to a Jewish B student. The fact that some parents of A students also posted does not detract from the usefulness of the thread for its intended audience. </p>
<p>Besides, B students in 9th grade can turn into A students before application time and A students have been known to falter. The categories are very fluid.</p>
<p>I agree with everything in the recent posts above about how this thread reflects a lot of fluidity in the definition of “B” student. I discovered CC when my A student was applying to colleges and on the threads I was reading I came to see my superstar as being on par with the average smart kid. There was the constant concern that in spite of all he did and accomplished it wasn’t enough. The feel of this thread is nothing like that.</p>
<p>On another note. We came across something today we had never experienced before. My S has done the drive half way across the country in two or three days 3 times already. But today when he was trying to check into the motel he had reserved a room at, my 20 year old S was told that he was not old enough to get a room without an adult. He was told this was not legal. He called us to ask us to try and find another place for him to stay. Each time my husband mentioned my S’s age he was told that my S could not check in. Finally my husband set up a reservation when he didn’t ask about an age requirement. Happily my S was able to check in. So what is a 20 year old driving across the country supposed to do? Has anyone else come across this problem? We didn’t see this coming.</p>
<p>Irishdoctor:</p>
<p>I LOVE your posts! 
Feel free to chime in whenever you are able to! Refresh my memory: do you have a current child in h.s. or college?</p>
<p>Lots of congrats to all the graduating seniors…I cannot believe I was in your position last year at this time and that my older S has already finished his first year of college. Yikes! The time goes by so quickly! :(</p>
<p>I love all my friends here. I love the vibe. I love the title. It works well. Keep the faith, and the attitude. We have all worked so well together, and we should not change now…</p>
<p>Yes, spectrum, we’ve experienced this. They don’t always check, especially if your son has a credit card that matches the one you’ve used. Same is true but strict with respect to rental cars.</p>
<p>I am hitting the “LIKE” button for all the positive sentiments expressed about the wonderful people of this thread. You are all great and I wish I “knew” you in real life - think of all the fun we could have!! :)</p>
<p>Also, best wishes to all the graduating seniors and their families. This is such a bitter-sweet time – I have already shed quite a few tears about the finality of it all! Like several other posters, S2 is our baby and although we look forward to the freedom of our empty nest, I will miss the energy and fun of having kids in the house. Sniff, Sniff…</p>
<p>The classification of “B” student leaves room for subjectivity, and I think parents must choose to take the information on this thread as they feel it is best for their child. My S’s grades have fluctuated since Freshman year, where he was “B-” ish. Now as a Junior, I would classify him as A-, however no APs. So I think in comparing him to other students (as admission counselors do), he would fall into a solid B category. I believe I am doing my S justice by trying to understand how he would appear on a college application, in order to best help him in selecting a college. This thread has helped me consider many aspects of the application process, and to be realistic in thinking about a college for him. As far as “Jewish” within the scope of this thread, I think those of us who are looking for this type of information in our college search, know what we are looking for, and I believe we can find it here. </p>
<p>I hope the name remains - I believe it is fitting. I think there is room for non B Jewish students under the umbrella!</p>
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<p>So true. There was a lot of discussion MUCH earlier in the thread about why a “Jewish” thread was needed. That reasoning is still relevant.</p>
<p>My S and I are part of the non-Jewish contingent here. S is my one and only, so I needed a place to learn and ask questions without judgment. That is the community I found here.</p>
<p>My me, the label of the student (A/B; Jewish/Non-Jewish) is less important. I learned more here than I EVER anticipated. I learned the importance of really understanding your kid’s needs with respect to the type of environment s/he wants; having a strategy for applying to schools; and that I’m not alone when I nag my S to get the essays done and the apps in early. He’s been so thankful for that. I have a lovely Mother’s Day letter to attribute to the merits of nagging!</p>
<p>I think that many of the parents on this thread recognize that some of our kids just need that extra push. The A threads are loaded with kids that are the type A, very self-motivated, competitive kids. The kids on this thread seem to be a bit more “chill”. Maybe they’ve learned to take things in stride because their lives entirely focused around achievement.</p>
<p>Maybe a title could be “Support for the overachieving parent with a “Mom, I told you not to worry” child”.</p>
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<p>spectrum2 - on the age issue - had a recent similar experience with S1 - on a cruise for spring break - and an issue came up that he was only 20. Luckily he was with friends who were 21 - he had to bunk with someone who was 21.</p>
<p>I’m glad most seem content with the thread name - it would feel weird to change it now. For many of us - the designation of “B” student represents not only the actual grades but also incorporates a bit of our child’s attitude towards hs. My older son took extreme pride in his grades and finished strong - straight A’s senior year. For S2 - grades have never been a priority and he generally will not do more than he has to. Senioritis has hit hard - and he is presently teetering between a “D” and an “E” in calculus for this quarter. With only a few days left - there is not much I can do. Pray for a “D” - so that he winds up with a “C” for the semester! I’m disappointed - but with the support of folks on this thread - I have also come to realize that his grades are his - not mine. If he ends up with a “D” for the semester and that has repercussions with his college acceptance - than perhaps he is not ready for college. (The rest of his grades are all B’s - so I don’t think one bad grade will get him revoked - a warning letter is a possibility). So - a bit of angst as we head into the otherwise happy period of prom, graduation and beach week but so be it.</p>
<p>rvm, S went from all As (he was mostly Bs until senior year) his first two quarters, then last quarter all Cs. We took away the playstation. Told him we expected this his last quarter, but not 3rd and told him he better not lose his scholarship. That frightened him. He is working hard again this quarter, so we will see. He doesn’t have to go back to As but i would like to see Bs so he ends the year in line with his other years. He just proved he can succeed or slack in college and i guess that is what your S is doing too.</p>
<p>We still have 6 weeks to go. Ap test is today. Prom not until June 8 and graduation June 21. S finds it hard to be on FB and read about all the kids south graduating next week.</p>
<p>it just means i have another 6 weeks until i shed tears!</p>
<p>I read this thread religiously for the sense of comraderie. We are all going through similar joys, struggles, worries, etc., and I always get the feeling that any suggestions/advice I receive is given thoughtfully and sincerely. Many of you have helped tremendously with all aspects of my S’s college search, from what restaurants to dine at when visiting a remote campus to the merits of the ACT vs. the SAT. My S was a solid B student who has morphed into a strong A student in the last couple of years (even with senioritis!). This thread still applies to his journey.</p>
<p>I celebrate the successes of all the seniors discussed on this thread, and pray for a SAFE prom/beach/graduation season (another thing to fret about!). CHEERS to all of the parents who guided them along the way!</p>
<p>socaldad42, my daughter is considering your very good suggestion of taking a college course this summer. She has only taken a couple of honors classes in HS and no AP.
Did your daughter take her college courses on line or did she actually go to the campus?</p>
<p>Palm,</p>
<p>She took a class on campus her junior year. First semester senior year, she took two on campus. This semester, she is taking one on campus, and one online. She will go off this fall with 15 credits under her belt. She will only take four classes first semester, this will lighten her load, and give her a chance to assimilate. It will also pad her in future semesters, in the event she needs to drop a class…</p>
<p>I just have to jump in here. This thread saved my sanity this year! </p>
<p>911C2S - you summed up my D perfectly with -</p>
<p>“I think that many of the parents on this thread recognize that some of our kids just need that extra push. The A threads are loaded with kids that are the type A, very self-motivated, competitive kids. The kids on this thread seem to be a bit more “chill”. Maybe they’ve learned to take things in stride because their lives entirely focused around achievement.”</p>
<p>While her grades may be mostly A’s she is a B personality! LOL! I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “back off” “I have it covered” “It’s under control”, etc. To say my D is “chill” is an understatement! She doesn’t worry about anything! Paper due tomorrow, that she hasn’t started, no problem…why am I worried, she isn’t!</p>
<p>Reading the A threads give me heart palpitations! </p>
<p>Rockvillemom - My D is hanging on to a C in Calc right now by the skin of her teeth. I think it was a 69.7 average! I mentioned it to her this morning and was growled at along with a few other not very nice words. Senioritis has hit and hit hard. I think it might even be harder on the kids who got into their Early Decision schools, they have known for soooo long.</p>
<p>Also, D has been highly emotional this week, which is not her usual self. Just so much going on now. It’s been a great senior year and she is really looking forward to prom,etc. and doesn’t want all of this to end, on the other hand she can’t wait to be at college already.</p>
<p>SOCA- Thanks for the information!</p>
<p>Example of a topic that probably will NOT be discussed on this thread:</p>
<p>Drive to perfect GPA - innate or learned? </p>
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<p>I’m always amazed at the slew of college applicants year after year with perfect or near perfect cumulative GPA. It is almost mind-boggling to me that these kids have been perfect or near perfect consistently in everything that counted toward their grades through at least three years of high school. Sure they are plenty smart, but what are the qualities that separate them from other smart or even smarter peers who failed to come anywhere near this level of academic excellence? Can these qualities be cultivated, or are they innate, or a combination of both? If it is a combination, which qualities are innate and which qualities can be learned? Is the sustained drive to succeed academically year-after-year inborn or a result of years of discipline and training? For those qualities that can be acquired, how early must they be cultivated? Did they acquire good habits and discipline from watching and following their parents? Was there a turning point in their lives that started it all?</p>
<p>Please don’t change the name of the thread!! I love the name! (Even though I’m not Jewish!!)</p>
<p>911C2S, Love it. Let’s skip that topic.</p>