<p>Popping in to wish people an easy fast on Wednesday.</p>
<p>If anybody lurking or participating on here is applying to Binghamton, feel free to PM me; we received an interesting and impassioned email today from President Stanger relating to the hazing article in last week’s NYtimes…</p>
<p>Don’t feel it is appropriate to post publicly…</p>
<p>LuvmomN8tur- I don’t have any advice but you are not alone. Your DD is much like my oldest, who resisted all attempts to get her interested. It was miserable. I think it is fear and intimidation. So many of her friends were attending highly prestigious and competitive schools. We did not have that focus, but her peers did, and she felt very inadequate. I wish I had found this thread then.
I hope it works out for you and your D and that she is happy in the college she attends. The first college my D picked was a good academic fit and she is still friends with some of her classmates. Eventually she picked a major that was not offered there and she transferred, but I believe she would have stayed if her major was there.
It was a very difficult time for us, but there were better ones ahead, and I wish them for you and your DD.</p>
<p>LuvmomN8tur and Pennylane, ShawD was very frightened and thus didn’t engage initially despite an elaborate process at her very competitive private HS. She saw kids were were depressed and on anti-depressants, kids who were very disappointed at where they got in, etc. She was not very competitive. My first trip with her was to a place (New College) that I felt a) she was sure to get in; and b) she would see as comfortable. “I could get in here and I could go here.” Then following up in part on her cue, we looked at Canadian schools, where she would get clear yes/no guidance during summer visits based upon grades and SAT or ACT scores. By the summer, she knew schools she would get into for sure. With this, she calmed down dramatically and then was able to engage in the college search. Reducing uncertainty reduced insecurity. I don’t know if the same kind of approach would help your D, Luvmomn8tur, but I offer it as a possibility.</p>
<p>Mary, why wait until you visit? I would call admissions and ask. If it is true, why would you bother with the visit? I live in Pa, and many kids go to UDel, and I have never heard this. Of course, don’t know if these kids took Latin as their language, although it was possible at dd’s school.</p>
<p>Changing topics…D2 accepted to Pitt Honors!!! Hooray!!!</p>
<p>Awesome news Vitrac!!! Congratulations, what a great start to the new year. I’m just curious is UT Austin still on her list or did she drop it?</p>
<p>Congrats Vitrac…Nice to get the first acceptance in…</p>
<p>Mazel Tov on a great acceptance, Vitrac! Oh yeah, oh yeah, you go girls! ;)</p>
<p>Mazel Tov Vitrac! Awesome to have a great acceptance in so early! Is this the first class of 2013 acceptance on the thread? </p>
<p>Saddlebrook - one of D1’s friends is an environmental science major at University of Vermont. </p>
<p>Wishing everyone an easy and meaningful fast.</p>
<p>Mazel Tov Vitrac! The first acceptance is always sweet. </p>
<p>Wishing everyone an easy fast.</p>
<p>@Vitrac- great news! If you have any questions about Pitt, let me know! My daughter is a sophomore there!</p>
<p>Congrats Vitrac!!</p>
<p>Thanks everyone! But, someone tell me: why am I more excited than D2??? Easy fast to everyone!</p>
<p>Spectrum-Yes, UT on the list. She already submitted the app. Now thinking abt doing the PlanII app.
MdMom-not even close to being the first acceptance on that thread. Alabama is always #1 followed by some other midwest schools, I think.
Pamom-Thanks! Appreciate it.</p>
<p>So happy for you (and DD), Vitrac! It is always nice to get the first one. Isn’t she at all excited about it? I will tell DS later on the way to temple… he’s just happy to have a few apps submitted already (although he’s not as happy about it as I am).</p>
<p>Easy fast to all!</p>
<p>congrats to Vitrac and her dd. I wish everyone here an healthy and happy and joyful year, and for those that fast, may it be easy! Thank you all for the support and nonjudgmental advice.</p>
<p>Vitrac - I meant first acceptance on this thread. Congrats again.</p>
<p>I have not really posted much here but it is such a supportive group that I like to check in periodically…I always feel less stressed! Today is no different but I had to say how much Luvmom’s dd’s behavior is like that of my S 13 and how helpful it is to be reminded that their resistance comes out of fear. Like many of you, we live in a competitive school district and all family and friends ask about is college. S has not written a word of an essay and has only done the easiest parts of the CA (and that with me breathing down his neck). I am so torn between letting him fail and shoving him through the process , just like I had to push him through the door of preschool (gently, of course). My big fear is that his resistance means he is truly not ready, but he refuses to consider a gap year, too. I hope that first acceptance does the trick…if he ever manages to get the app in.</p>
<p>mdmom-Ohhhhhhhh. Well if we are the first on this thread, I’m feeling pretty lucky. Love hanging out with all of you very supportive parents. No place on Earth like this thread.</p>
<p>Vitrac - fabulous news, congratulations! Acceptances make all (most) of the stress fade away.</p>