<p>really hope all goes well Spectrum.</p>
<p>Spectrum, I’m sorry about your son’s mono, but withdrawal is the only way to go. DH had mono in law school and didn’t withdraw, and really suffered gradewise. I hope he gets well soon. He will catch up with his friends and frat later.</p>
<p>Some good news: DS accepted into University of Denver! The website has a great video about the academic and LD support services, looks very good. And he would be able to ski a lot, which would make him happy.</p>
<p>Fabulous news - congratulations!</p>
<p>pkd…awesome news, congrats!</p>
<p>spectrum!!! I wrote a big pm to you a few hours ago but it wouldn’t go through! It wasn’t until I logged out did I find out the reason…you are spectrum2, not spectrum! So I will write the pm to you another time…but my thoughts are with you and your S2. </p>
<p>Maybe there is a way he could play catch up over the summer? Mainly, though, I hope his health is okay and he rests and recovers nicely. Always something. </p>
<p>The stress around my house is constant, that’s why I hang out at the parent cafe…it’s mindless for the most part & gives me a break from my stress, which is quite overwhelming. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, though, hopefully before the end of 2013.</p>
<p>Best wishes for a full & quick recovery for your S2 and hope he’ll have a chance to get caught up over the summer, if that’s an option.</p>
<p>congrats to pkdof13!
spectrum2-so sorry about your son, as you know. but as has been said before, most times mono is just too tough to beat without a complete surrender. esp for a kid with such a demanding major. this too shall pass. best wishes to him (and you).</p>
<p>Thank you for all the good wishes and hugs. Yes mono has required full surrender, both my S and I realized that after 3 weeks of missed classes going back would have been setting himself up for a downward spiral. Moments, I love your perspective, so we will look forward to see what wonderful things this new path brings. Mono is as Socal says a blip in the road but kids get it and recover and move on so this is not such a big thing. I am really proud of my S. He had gotten a 5 in BC Calc in HS but had chosen to retake it. For the past few days I have seen him studying calc at home. He told me today that he is going to do his best to keep up. Take the tests for the class after they are posted on line and if he does well he will try and use his BC credit and skip this second semester of Calc if that is possible. I think he will be ok. It is disappointing and we are a bit worried about what will happen to his scholarships that required the completion of 24 hours of coursework freshman year to be renewed. That was a no worry consideration when we first looked at them but now it seems he will loose them inspite of an awesome first semester. </p>
<p>Chocchip: I hate when that happens!!! I always try and copy any CC posts before posting because I have lost so many of them. Thank you for thinking of us.</p>
<p>Pkd: Yikes, mono in law school, can you withdraw in law school? I’ve got one about to go down that road and looking at the costs of law school that is really frightening!!! Also congrats to your S!</p>
<p>spectrum2- i cant believe your son’s school wouldnt waive the coursework requirement for a medical reason. I think his scholarship will remain intact. of course, get on the phone and confirm my suspicions please!!!</p>
<p>just wanted to update you all with a dose of reality. My “oh so fabulous son” the one who has done so well this year and seemed to have such a mature attitude is MIA. In his place is the kids I have known most of his life. He is *<strong><em>ed off that he will have to take the SAT’s on monday instead of on saturday like the rest of the world due to his accommodations ( apparently with SSD accommodations the SAT’s can be taken within 4 days of everybody else and it’s up to the school as to when). He is *</em></strong>ed because he will miss a full day of school (which I understand) but the real issue I now understand is that all of his friends will be going out and getting wasted saturday night and he won’t be able to partake in the fun since he will have the SAT’s soon after. So, I am officially off of my high horse thinking for a minute my son was all that. Ughhhh hormones and teenage boys.</p>
<p>Kind of mature of him, Momentscaught, to realize he can’t go out and party on Saturday night when the SATs are two days away. Most kids would argue that if the SATs arent on Sunday, he could get away with partying Saturday night. Glass half full!</p>
<p>Vitrac: I did call today and all indications were that he would have to take a bunch of credit over the summer (at cost) or loose the scholarships. We are going in tomorrow to pack up his dorm room and hopefully a face to face meeting with a counselor will give us a more favorable option. My S is already committed (due to his Olim fellowship) to going back to be a counselor at camp, his favorite place on earth for the summer. Taking a nearly full courseload over the summer will be a very unhappy choice.</p>
<p>Moments: Don’t be too upset with him, at least he is planning not party with his friends because he will have to take the test soon. There is a clear sense of responsibility in that. You can’t blame a kid for wanting the test to be overwith and his not wanting to miss a day of class well that is responsible too. Given the thought of preparing for the SAT or partying with friends you can’t really blame him for preferring the latter.</p>
<p>Spectrum, I hope your son makes a great recovery and gets better options at the meeting tomorrow.</p>
<p>It is so wonderful to hear of all the great admissions for the kids and their families on this thread.</p>
<p>pkdof13–my middle son is a 2011 grad of University of Denver if you have any questions. He really enjoyed the Chabad and also did some things with Hillel.</p>
<p>It is great that ZBT is now at Elon. My nephew is a ZBT at Illinois. What a great group of young men!</p>
<p>your all right, he is being somewhat responsible… it’s the nasty attitude I could do without, somehow directed at me as if I planned this to ruin his saturday night. I will be a bit more understanding though, thanks for pointing out the good.</p>
<p>I know this post is way off base, but I thought I would share it anyway.<br>
This past weekend at Boston University, the Sammy fraternity was hosting an event for their 7 new pledges. While the details are vague, they made the frosh boys drink a lot. I would assume it was a hazing event, though it has not been stated. Nonetheless, a 19 year old boy died that evening of an apparent alcohol poisoning. The fraternity has been suspended. A nice jewish frat takes the life a very young man. Horrendous. Warn your kids…Sorry, but I thought it was important.</p>
<p>Socaldad42 so glad u informed us. I’m completely sick thinking about those poor parents. All that we and our children have gone through to get to this point, a whole life ahead and all ended for no reason other then ignorance. I’m literally sick about this. The crazy thing is this is not being publicized, it’s not on the news and it needs to be. Kids need to know.</p>
<p>That’s sad news socaldad. How terrible for the family.</p>
<p>socaldad: that is horrible news. So sad for the family and all involved. very scary to think about peer pressure and how it can go so terribly wrong.</p>
<p>spectrum: my nephew had a terrible repelling accident during his junior year of college. It happened toward the end of January. He had to withdraw from the semester & due to the nature of his injuries he had to take another year off for rehab. I am proud to say that he just graduated in December and is a more mature person for the experience. He has a great attitude. When I mentioned your son’s situation he suggested looking into some online, credit courses from the college when he is feeling up to it. It seemed to help him feel like he was still part of the program & he got some general ed classes out of the way.</p>
<p>pkd: Congrats. very exciting news.</p>
<p>SoCal, thanks for the info.
momentscaught: It’s big news up here in New England…terrible, terrible news.</p>
<p>I don’t know the names of all the Jewish Frats…I guess SAMMY and ZBT are two of them…my S is with Aepi, another Frat and I am unhappy with the fact that they tell the kids NOT to tell ANYONE anything that goes on with the pledging.</p>
<p>When my S was pledging as a freshman last year, he asked for his passport. Huh? I’m thinking the worst of everything…I’ve heard stories where they drive the kids somewhere and they need to find their way back to the school…as a nervous freshman parent, I called the school to talk to the Frat advisors. They looked into why the kids needed passports. As it turns out, they had become full fledged members of the Frat and were taking the kids for a weekend up to Montreal to celebrate. I’m really glad I called the school anyway, and the advisor said they watch the frat pledging closely. Glad to hear that.</p>
<p>You would think that the schools would be watching the pledging carefully since there have been so many instances of alcohol poisoning or death. My S said he had to do some pretty nasty things and I asked him about drinking too much water or alcohol and he said, “no”, that wasn’t one of them…eating a live goldfish was, though, yikes. Somehow I managed to wrangle that info. from him, yucch. Glad S2 doesn’t seem to be interested in Frats, but we’ll see. Hope not…there are so many ways to have fun at school!</p>
<p>socal - thank you for sharing that sad news - it is important for us to stay informed. I know I am guilty of assuming that a Jewish frat will be less likely to promote or tolerate such behavior. I believe one of the reasons Elon chose ZBT is that they do not have the concept of “pledging” and of course no hazing.</p>
<p><a href=“BU reminding students of alcohol policy following freshman’s death – NECN”>http://www.necn.com/03/05/13/BU-reminding-students-of-alcohol-policy-/landing.html?blockID=833645&feedID=11106</a></p>
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<p><a href=“http://www.bu.edu/today/2013/sigma-alpha-mu-suspended/[/url]”>http://www.bu.edu/today/2013/sigma-alpha-mu-suspended/</a></p>
<p>What happened to that BU freshman is very sad. Apprently it happened off-campus at an unofficial frat event. Ironically, BU has really cracked down on hazing. Last year SDT was put on probation when some pledges ended up in the hospital after an event, and the school is really trying to stop this kind of stuff. My D just pledged a sorority and she said that they couldn’t even make the pledges do silly things like dressing up.</p>