<p>re: the above</p>
<p>Apparently (according to GolfFather) I am guilty of hatred toward Jews because I have sympathy for Palestinians. I also must not exist, because (according to GolfFather) there are no Jews who feel this way.</p>
<p>Varitek and Momentscaught, I can relate to your feelings of worry. Like many parents, I found senior year to be full of wondering, waiting, and all the emotions. I will propose that behind some of that “intellectual snobbery” is the insecurity so common to seniors during this time. It’s hard for a student to put himself on that line. I think that many of them feel vulnerable to outside opinion and peer comments. Fortunately this talking settles down once new friends are made at school. We can’t control what our kids hear from others, however, the most important opinions to them are ours.</p>
<p>While there are benefits to attending a highly regarded college, the concern that a lower ranked college will not nurture intellect or challenge a good student is, for the most part, not the case. There are many reasons that influence college decisions and so there are excellent students in almost every college who do go on to good graduate programs and careers. </p>
<p>For some students, a transfer is eventually the best choice, but, like a college application, that takes time, depends on the student’s performance, and some factors that they can’t control. The student has to also be prepared to stay at their college and learn to thrive there if possible, unless there is an urgent reason to leave. </p>
<p>If I can pass on any advice about the application process it’s this: Love your child’s college whatever that is and celebrate his accomplishments. Your child sees his college acceptance as a reflection of himself and any criticism as personal. Speak highly of all the choices on the list and find something unique and interesting about each one. It’s OK to reach for the stars when applying, but the student who also likes the alternatives is likely to be happy with either outcome. It isn’t possible to go back in time and change the high school record, but college is a new beginning. Once the college decision is set, confirm its potential for opportunity. More then anything, he wants to see you proud of this next big step.</p>
<p>NYMomof3Kids, they do plan a lot of activities at night at the Student Activity Center and at the dorms (floor mixers). Many of the club activities and meetings also take place at night. The Greek life is not as strong as in other colleges but there are 100 or so different sororities and fraternities represented in campus. Any presentation by the Frost School of Music is free to UM students (many have internationally renown musicians as guest players) as are many of the art exhibits and movie presentation sponsored by UM. Clubs also organize many trips. My son went to Universal and to a Tallahassee (ok, this last one was to watch a game, but he had fun!).</p>
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Amen & hallelujah!!
Happily, we crafted our list with these thoughts in mind.<br>
I don’t recall where on this site I first read it, but ‘Love thy safety.’
is indeed good counsel.</p>
<p>great advice Pennylane2011! I am so emotionally involved myself I didn’t even consider that his “intellectual snobbery” could be a cover for other feelings. I will try very hard to be excited about all of the schools on his list and not be so transparent about my feelings with him.</p>
<p>I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgivukkah!! Enjoy!</p>
<p>momentscaught, have you looked at F&M? I know that they are a school that considers the grade differentials between boys and girls… some schools give that more consideration than others…</p>
<p>May I also say that if your Child’s friend picks a school they are interested in - DO NOT make “that face” and say “Oh”. You don’t know the families financial situation (as in they mentioned a State School and you are all Ivy League) nor do you know their grades, intended major etc. I cannot begin to tell you how many schools my daughter liked until “So and So’s Mom said …” Some of the schools that were removed from her list may have been excellent choices but were dropped from consideration because of that.</p>
<p>Does anyone have any recommendations for a cheap LED menorah I can buy online? I’m co-hosting a Hanukah / Christmas party with my soroity and the apartment complex it’s in doesn’t allow candles.</p>
<p>If there is a Home Goods or Home Depot store near you, they have Menorahs with LED lights, so did Joann Fabrics in my area. </p>
<p>Amazon has several to choose from:
[Amazon.com:</a> led menorah](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_10?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=led%20menorah&sprefix=LED+Menora%2Caps%2C287&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aled%20menorah]Amazon.com:”>http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_10?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=led%20menorah&sprefix=LED+Menora%2Caps%2C287&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aled%20menorah)</p>
<p>Shop for Hanukkah Gifts shows a few with a link to purchase via Amazon.com. [Menorahs</a> (Candle and Electric)](<a href=“http://www.shopforhanukkahgifts.com/lists/Menorahs-Candles/]Menorahs”>Best Hanukkah Menorah 2023 ▷ HanukkahBuys.com)</p>
<p>whenhen, how about this one: [Light-Up</a> Menorah 11in - Party City](<a href=“http://www.partycity.com/product/light+up+menorah+11in.do?kwid=light-up%20menorah%2011in&qcid=&ref=ci&srccode=cii_17588969&cpncode=27-209518288-2]Light-Up”>http://www.partycity.com/product/light+up+menorah+11in.do?kwid=light-up%20menorah%2011in&qcid=&ref=ci&srccode=cii_17588969&cpncode=27-209518288-2)
or this one:
[12</a> in. Electric LED Menorah-JRN-4 at The Home Depot](<a href=“http://www.homedepot.com/p/Unbranded-12-in-Electric-LED-Menorah-JRN-4/204488689?cm_mmc=shopping-_-googleads-_-pla-_-204488689&skwcid&kwd=&ci_sku=204488689&ci_kw=&ci_gpa=pla&ci_src=17588969#.UpLgHWTk96s]12”>http://www.homedepot.com/p/Unbranded-12-in-Electric-LED-Menorah-JRN-4/204488689?cm_mmc=shopping-_-googleads-_-pla-_-204488689&skwcid&kwd=&ci_sku=204488689&ci_kw=&ci_gpa=pla&ci_src=17588969#.UpLgHWTk96s)</p>
<p>Those look awesome, thanks.</p>
<p>I’m editing a new book for a friend. It’s titled “The Chollo & the Jew”. Does anyone find the title offensive?</p>
<p>Whenhen Bed Bath and Beyond has also. Happy Thanksgivukkah!</p>
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Ummmm … my two cents – probably not gonna win friends from folks on either side of the ampersand.</p>
<p>Totally OT! Need a tasty recipe for cranberry applesauce–prefer sweet to tart. I need it to pair with sweet potato latkes. I tried an Allrecipe recipe, but too tart & mushy. </p>
<p>We usually fry up a gazillion burmuelos, but this year I ordered Pumpkin Sufganiot with Cranberry Jelly filling in addition to making burmuelos. I hope the Sufganiot taste delicious–need to sample one in the car in secret before heading home on Wednesday–yummy, yum, yum.</p>
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Now that is inspired.</p>
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<p>Can’t comment on Chollo but the word Jew is a perfectly acceptable word, no more offensive than “Swede” or “Finn.” I know people have heard it used in ways that suggest that it is offensive.</p>
<p>Sosomenza I think it all depends on the book. The word"Jew" is not an offensive term. I am Jewish. I am a Jew. Cholo is not a derogatory term if correctly used and if the person feels that the name makes them part of a sub culture of the society. There is a difference when someone says" I 'm from the hood" and when someone is told " You are from the hood"or “You belong in the hood”. Cholo is the same in my opinion.</p>
<p>It looks to me like Trinity might be trying to attract more Jewish students. My son just got a full page letter from their Hillel stating that they got his name from admissions and wanting him to be aware of Jewish life on campus. What is so strange to me is that they knew all about him, they stated that they know because of his leading an upcoming charity event that he would be the kind of student that would make a great contribution to Trinity? The charity event is not related to judaism in any way (in fact it’s being held in a homeless shelter called chosen 300 ministries). How did they get this info on him? It’s on his resume, but his resume is only given out to those schools he has applied to. Does anyone else find this odd?</p>