I believe Skidmore is very little merit - but meets need. They have two merit awards.
I don’t think student would qualify.
“Basically, she does not want an academic environment that consumes all of her time.” Scratch Swarthmore.
“She stopped taking Honors” - I take that to mean she doesn’t have rigor - scratch Bryn Mawr, Mount Holyoke, Skidmore, Swat, Vassar for sure. If you look in their common data set (section c9), you will see rigor being the most important criteria.
The rest of your list could work - but without rigor, a student is not going to get into upper echelon schools.