Colleges where you may meet your spouse

Let’s see, I went to a technical U that was 85% male and the smart, engineering-oriented women tended toward decidedly unsexy. Of the roughly 150 fraternity brothers over the years, exactly one marriage were both alumni.


Ooooh … that means that “me & the other girls” at my alma mater must have tended toward sexy, because so many couples who met there not only married, but are still married eons later. Gosh, I don’t normally consider myself sexy, so this makes my day. :wink:

Wow.

I have several friends who are in long term relationships/engaged/married post-college. I am literally the only one who actually met their spouse in college. (My BIL and SIL went to the same college but they met elsewhere. SIL was in the same program as Mr R and I.)

@infinityprep1234

@romanigypsyeyes , I actually can’t think of any couples I know who met at your alma mater & married. Odd … especially since I can think of many couples from that “other” school who met & married!

@kelsmom I actually can’t think of any from the other either… and I’ve been here longer than MSU lol

Met mine at URI and my sister met hers there too.

Ok, I take the cake: I met my husband at nursery school, I kid you not. But neither of us have a memory of that. Then he moved to my neighborhood when we were in 6th grade, and we became our first crushes…he kissed me and then promptly “broke up” with me after december break because he became interested in someone else ;-). We began dating as seniors in high school, and continued through college, but not at the same school. He went to brown and I went to a woman’s college in MA. We then went together to UMichigan for grad school and married after he finished law school (I was still in a doctoral program).

One of our sons dated someone he met in college seriously but they broke up when she moved across country for a job a year after graduation. He has just moved to the Bay Area himself for grad school but I think they’ll remain friends. He’s already attended a wedding of a brown couple that were two years ahead of him.

Younger son is a senior in college and has been dating the same girl since sept of senior year in high school. They’re at the same college and he’s applying to jobs in several different cities while she’s applying for a Fulbright abroad, as well as jobs here. We’ll see what happens, but I can see that they’re really compatible.

@infinityprep1234 perhaps grad school.

Graduation weddings at USNA have gone down somewhat and that is a good thing. It is a beautiful chapel and if you are ever in the area of Annapolis, it’s worth the visit.

@traveler98 and @momocarly another Alpha Phi Omega alum here! Didn’t meet my husband there though.

Grad school - scads of us.

@RenaissanceMom That is a great story! You win with the preschool love affair. Kissed you in 6th grade and promptly broke up. Lol.

I’ve never heard that, but as an 80’s era alum we called ourselves “60%ers” because of the erroneous rumor that 60% of Bates students married other Bates students (the reality is more like 13-14%). As in “Ooh, you guys are going to be 60%ers for sure!” I married a fellow Bobcat, as did my husband’s freshman roommate. Our first daughters were born on the same day. Both girls almost ended up at Bates but one chose another NESCAC school instead.

I know that many people from my college do marry each other; my college is on the list. My kid’s college is on the list.

What I find odd about the list is that what seem to be similar colleges are/are not on the list. For example, I guess this shows that not all Ivies are alike, because Cornell is on the list and Yale and Brown are in the top 10 but none of the other Ivies are on it. Seems odd to me that it’s a lot more likely you’ll meet your spouse at Brown or Yale than at Dartmouth or Columbia.

I remember reading this article about the Bates’ 60% thing when I picked up the college magazine when one of my kids was applying.

https://www.bates.edu/magazine/recent-favorites/su-2010-60-percent-solution/

So, I guess I will be secretly adding this to my wish list of college “must haves” for my youngest. :slight_smile:

I wonder how your alma mater would even know.

I’ve never received anything asking my marital status. Neither of us changed our names. It’s just as likely that we’re roommates as married.

DS#2 met his fiancée in college. But they were friends first. For 3 years. Didn’t start dating 'til beginning of their senior year. That was 6 years ago. They managed a long, long distance relationship and are now engaged. That is the test of time and a strong relationship. They will be 28 when they wed. Both employed and off the payroll. Fiancee finished grad school last spring. That’s reasonable, IMO.

It doesn’t meet the dual graduate level, but my wife and I did meet at her college. I took one graduate class there and we met on the soccer fields.

I’ve brought her up a couple of other times, but Miss Teen NY (1982?) and I went to college together. She was in APO and was a very kind person, constantly hiding from unwanted attention but too nice to be blunt. She had to work extra hard to “unsexy” herself, but if I recall she did marry a classmate. Being the only woman in a classroom has got to be distressing, the goldfish in a room full of cats. My appearance and my personality protected me from ever having to experience such distress.

I would guess a big factor in not making the list is the easy accessibility of large numbers of other college-age people. New Haven and Ithaca would be way more socially isolated than NYC or Cambridge.

…but than Dartmouth?