Abasket did not crucial your parenting at all…and glad to see you noticed that, and apologized.
I still think…you need to find things to do with your kids that are fun, and not stressful. When my kids were that little, they enjoyed folding the laundry and matching socks. They enjoyed helping put the groceries away. They enjoyed helping me make dinner…or bake cookies. They enjoyed just getting the mail.
You don’t have to do things that are not part of your needed household routines…you just need to include your kids in them.
And there are times when you will want them to have some time to themselves, so you can have time for yourself too.
They are both in school. This gives you at least 1/2 day, five days a week to get done things that are a PITA to do with small kids.
It also gives you time to yourself.
Some SAHMs find a small part time job can really take the edge off…or volunteer work. Perhaps you could consider these things too.