Commuting from home to save money for future grad school, college counselor disagrees

<p>I want to give an update on our situation and give thanks for all helpful insights.</p>

<p>Son #3 just got an invitation for a weekend visit at Fort Lewis college, to spend time with the cycling team and be assessed by the cycling coaches. </p>

<p>This sounds a bit off-schedule compared to the process that, to extent of my knowledge, football HS athletes go through. But cycling is not football, so maybe things works differently.</p>

<p>I’m a bit skeptical of the academic credentials of Fort Lewis college, it is not on top-50 LAC rankings of US News Report. But I’m also skeptical of the whole ranking thing, so I’ll try to gather more information about its academics standards.</p>

<p>Op: I have been reading your posts with interest… Three of my own and it makes me feel better to read your about your process times three…I have so many friends who talk about feeling like they have done such a better job with their second child learning so much/making mistakes along the way with their first that I often feel pressure to make sure we help guide correctly along three different paths simultaneously…it can keep me up at night :blush: Our three will more than likely need grad school as well and that is factoring into decisions to some extent…best of luck during this exciting time!</p>

<p>UpperValley, I am a great fan of LACs and though some are not ranked or as well known as the bigger schools, they can be wonderful. I have a friend from years ago who went to Durango, CO for cycling. His dad was in higher education for years an felt that the school was a great match for the kid and was the best way for him to continue cycling in college. I don’t remember the college name, just the name of the town.</p>

<p>And my son just graduated from a little LAC in your town, probably minutes from you. He turned down IVy to go there and loved every minute of his years there. It could not have been a better match for him an dthe academics were top notch, but more importantly served up the way he could best absorb them. The only down side is that everyone here thinks he went to a small state school out west and their eyes glaze over at the cocktail parties A nice merit award was in the picture to soften the high cost as well. Frankly, at the time it was not my first choice for him, but it was the best match for him.</p>

<p>My suggestion to you and your athlete son is to look at some like colleges and have him visit and compare. My oldest was a college athlete and at that lever of competition, the match between the progam and the kid is very important as it can be a good part of the college life.</p>

<p>Hi,</p>

<p>I just wanted to give a heads up on what happened after all those months.</p>

<p>On my sons got an interesting offer and decided to head off to Fort Lewis College. The other two opted to go to UC - Boulder.</p>

<p>I commuted (parents’ choice, not mine) for two years to college: two hours RT highway-driving, minimum, six days a week. Often commute was longer due to traffic congestion. Classes for my major required me to be on campus from 8 am to 5 pm, due to labs. If I attended an evening social event, I might have been on campus until 1 am or later. This was not a good college experience.</p>

<p>I’d also second others’ opinions not to count on grad school yet. And with triplets, I’d suspect that financial aid will be forthcoming too.</p>

<p>Higgins…this thread is almost a year old. The OP was just giving an update…which was nice to hear. I would guess in the year that others have moved on.</p>

<p>Thanks for the update. I hope they all do well.</p>

<p>If it were me, I’d tell the kids what I could afford, the maximum loan I’ll let them have. (I think it’s okay for a kid to have some debt, just not a lot of debt.) Then I’d let them figure out where they want to go. If they are happy living at home and going to U of Colorado, great! But maybe they’d like to explore some of the big wide world while they are in college. As a kid I know I would really have resented your plan.</p>

<p>That said, the GC has no business telling you what you can afford - that’s for you to decide.</p>

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<li>Being 3 different kids, they may not ALL go to the community college.</li>
<li>Even if only 2 of them attend CC, they can commute together in the morning & evening. It’s better to spend long hours on campus, studying there (or playing frisbee) in between classes, going to club meetings in the evening, and of course, eating in the dining hall, to make friends and get the full “college experience.” And you can divide the commuting costs by two and share the driving.<br></li>
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<p>Sounds like a plan. </p>

<p>I agree–don’t worry about grad school at this time but do worry about student loan debt. If they can get scholarships or with your assistance graduate debt free–that’s ideal! :)</p>

<p>Edit: Just now saw the thread update! I see you took my advice. :wink: :D</p>

<p>Great to see an update… Wishing you 3 sons a great first year!</p>

<p>Updates are always appreciated!</p>

<p>Thanks for the update, Upper Valley. Did CU Boulder end up providing any financial aid other than a $5K merit scholarship?</p>

<p>Thanks for the update. Will they be commuting?</p>