<p>@ Nrdsb4 </p>
<p>I know one can use both. </p>
<p>But consider this.</p>
<p>I know someone that simply married into wealth. Had he not gone to the university he went to, he wouldn’t have had the opportunity and connections to meet her. </p>
<p>Can hard work and knowledge engender such sudden prosperity? </p>
<p>“Princeton Mom” would agree with you, Francis. </p>
<p>I can assure you that most people look for honesty, integrity, reliability and trustworthiness in choosing a future spouse just as much as in choosing a future business partner. (Whether people are able to accurately judge those traits in romantic relationships may be another question.) </p>
<p>@MiamiDAP </p>
<p>True, to live a middle class or upper middle class life, one, in all probability, only needs to have a degree.</p>
<p>To move higher, one needs connections. </p>
<p>btw, yes it depends on the area. There are large mansions sold for as little as half a mil in some parts of the country. </p>
<p>Really FrancisBacon you sound like an absolute opportunist. A very unattractive trait in a man. </p>
<p>@ HarvestMoon1 </p>
<p>Not really. I just see it work well for others and am playing devils advocate to find any reason why I shouldn’t be one. </p>
<p>Frankly, I am envious of those that ulitilize such a method. I find it distasteful and fascinating at the same time.</p>
<p>Besides, who ever said I’m a man. I’m just a fan of Francis Bacon.</p>
<p>@ nottelling </p>
<p>True. But at the same time, it usually isn’t done with as much critical analysis. As long as the person is forthcoming and romantic without being an insensitive jerk at any time, I’m sure it will work out. </p>
<p>One doesn’t need to be genius, or even a professional. </p>
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<p>Probably not as quickly as marrying rich. But I can assure you if you get to the same place in just a few years and know YOU put yourself there, there is no comparison in the quality of life which ensues. ;)</p>
<p>Good luck with that. I’m sure there are lines of rich girls just waiting to be swept off their feet by you. </p>
<p>The real issue will be in getting an accurate picture of their finances while maintaining your “forthcoming and romantic” posture. Warren Buffet, for example, gave each of his kids only a $1 mil. Would be awkward to discover that on the honeymoon. </p>
<p>@ Nrdsb4 </p>
<p>Well, it’s not like marrying rich is in any way “cheating”.</p>
<p>It still takes intelligence to both recognize and complete such a path. </p>
<p>It takes intelligence to make the right connections to eventually meet a bf/gf of high status and compatible personalities at the same time. </p>
<p>At that still takes planning. </p>
<p>And how do you propose to transfer the assets of this hypothetical wealthy family into ones that you can access? Don’t you think such families take care to put safeguards in place to protect their progeny from people with thoughts such as yours?</p>
<p>@nottelling </p>
<p>As long as one is at least average looking and has a compatible personality, it will work.</p>
<p>I’ve never said that one has complete control over the situation. Yet, there is still an advantage to being in the Buffet family even if only $1 mil is received. For instance, having Warren Buffet give you advice is well worth it. Just to state one advantage, out of many.</p>
<p>@ HarvestMoon1 </p>
<p>Jesus, you think I’m a conniving sociopath don’t you?</p>
<p>Just being near wealthy people, learning from their success, and being around successful people is very advantageous.</p>
<p>I’m not in any way advocating using people as pawns to steal their money, jesus! </p>
<p>I’m talking about connections. Hey, maybe, one can join the family business. It’s not uncommon, </p>
<p>I need to set the record straight here.</p>
<p>Looking for a wealthy partner is no different than a woman looking for a man at least as tall as her or a man looking for a woman that isn’t obese. </p>
<p>Preferences, just preferences. </p>
<p>As long as the personalities are compatible, all other preferences may be arbitrary. A woman can require a man to have pink hair for all I care. It doesn’t violate any moral code. </p>
<p>And just what is it that you will be bringing to the table in this hypothetical arrangement FrancisBacon?</p>
<p>Maybe you’ll really luck out and find a fabulously rich girl on her death bed! See, e.g., Wings of the Dove, by Henry James.</p>
<p>@ Harvest Moon </p>
<p>Not talking about myself in particular. Some people have good looks. Some people are funny. Some people are romantic. Some people are exciting adventurists. All those are things to be brought to the table. </p>
<p>You think all romantic relationships are comprised of people of the same socioeconomic status?</p>
<p>@ nottelling </p>
<p>You are missing my point. I am not saying that money is the only factor and that one should wish their significant dies early and gives them a will. That is horrible. </p>
<p>I am saying that, sometimes, after finding someone that is completely compatible( humor, hobbies, taste of art and food etc), being rich would be a very nice perk.</p>
<p>I’ve never said it was the end in itself. Only a psychopath would think that way.</p>
<p>You are completely misinterpreting my position on that matter. </p>
<p>Love first, then wealth. </p>
<p>Wealth is nothing without love. It’s that simple. </p>
<p>Francis you seem to be making this up as you go along. Look at the title of your thread.</p>
<p>Beware the golden cage, @FrancisBacon </p>
<p>All studies of happiness find that the amount of money needed to be happy, optimal for happiness, is not nearly so much that you couldn’t earn it yourself with a good education.</p>
<p>If you are actually serious, which I doubt, please come back and let us know how the dating wealthy is going for you. </p>