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Yeah, I think this might just get her fired.
Of course, some students may try to test where the boundary is for “violent language”, “hate speech”, “profanity”, “pornography”, or “hostility toward marginalized groups” – or accuse others of such when it is not universally agreed whether it is.
This wasn’t about parents picking up kids in a car line, it’s about parents going into the school.
The kids have a uniform, so I don’t think it is too much to ask the parents to set an example for their kids and other kids. If you are going into a place of business and expecting to do business, dress for it.
There are bigger fish to fry when it comes to parents in school - like getting them to care enough to walk into the place to begin with.
I don’t go to my child’s high school unless it is for a meeting or an event. Those are planned activities for which I tend to put a little more thought into my outfit rather than my more casual attire. If I am picking my high schooler up, I stay in the car.
This school has a uniform for their students. They are obviously trying to get the parents on board to extend that discipline to themselves. Any educator will say, “it starts at home.” The intent is good but in this day and age, you will always offend someone. I didn’t know a public school could have such a policy.
My kids were instructed to dress for school like it was a job. No flip flops, tshirts, spaghetti straps, bra straps showing, pants hanging off the hips, etc. They were also told no baseball hats or hoodies top pulled on. Dress for success. I don’t think it was an unreasonable “ask”. Personally, I never leave the house in pajama bottoms or my hair in curlers. How long does it take to throw your hair in a pony and put some pants on? I applaud this dress code. We need to start raising the bar/expectations for the next generation…we’ve been lowering it for far too many years imho.
No worries @romanigypsyeyes that dress code mostly pertains to the moms anyway, not the dads. Additionally, it says nothing about parents needing to be clean, so they aren’t worried about that aspect at all.
The hair issue is the worst part IMO; no silk bonnets or coverings and the story including a mom who was turned away for wearing a head scarf. Not only is it yet another thing targeting women (correct me if I’m wrong, I don’t recall seeing them say parents can’t wear hats inside,
for example?) but it also is the part drawing complaints for racism and has the potential for worse.
Don’t worry, the dads can’t show up in school in their pajamas or with their hair in rollers either.
So if a mom has her hair in curlers because she’s getting ready for work, or is in leggings because she’s cleaning out the attic and they’re comfortable, and the nurse calls to say her child is sick and needs to come home, mom will be denied entrance to the school?
I don’t wear either of those two things. So this isn’t my own battle. But I think there’s a world of difference between looking sexy or dangerous and being interrupted in the middle of the day to pick up a child.
Why don’t we tackle the battles of parents who can’t or won’t get their kids out of bed to attend school? Of parents who are unaware that their kids are bullies? Of parents who can’t or won’t provide a real diet for their kids? Of parents who leave their kids unattended? Of parents who can’t or won’t provide their children with a safe environment? Of parents whose kids haven’t been to the doctor or the dentist in far too long? Of parents who are so busy fighting with each other that their kids can’s sleep at night? Of parents who can’t or won’t ensure that their kids get through their homework? Of parents who are fighting addiction issues?
Then we can worry about parents who pick up their kids wearing curlers or leggings.
Less and less, it seems to me, at least in some workplaces. At my office, the current dress code appears to be something like “Wear clothing.”
@bjkmom because IMO the implication is that “good parents” dress appropriately and those who don’t are the “bad parents” who are raising bullies that don’t go to school regularly, etc.
It’s another way to try to judge a book by its cover.
I really don’t think an emergency visit to get a sick kid is the concern here. Those are not the situations that caused the principal’s policy, and it would appear she would apply common sense to such situations. Rather than draw up a list of all the potential situations which could involve hair rollers, how about we actually use common sense in the circumstances, and ask school officials to do the same? If you really don’t trust their judgment at all, you shouldn’t be placing your child in their school.
Wait so now it’s a policy that isn’t applied evenly?
Didn’t see that in the letter to parents at all. What I read is that they would be asked to leave as the parent who came with a head scarf to sign her daughter up there was, even though the policy wasn’t even public at that time. And then the police were called when the mother wanted to see the written policy (that doesn’t seem to have been a written policy at the time).
ETA: if you read the letter from the Principal it’s underlined and in bold type that it pertains to anything in the school and no one violating the dress code will be allowed inside.
I teach in a Catholic school with a very strict dress code for teachers. And I can’t tell you how often I’ve been in my kids’ school during the school day (504 plan meeting, picking up a sick kid…) and found myself far better dressed than their teachers. I’m curious as to the teacher dress code in this school. Are they allowed to wear jeans? I’m not? Flip flops? Nope. Short skirts? Nope. Skirts without panty hose? Nope. Pants without a sweater or jacket? Nope. Are the guys dressed in jacket and tie? Ours are.
My point is that there is seldom a one-size-fits all dress code. Parents are in school in a far different role than teachers. I think that there are many, many more important battles to fight than what a parent wears when she’s in school on her child’s behalf. The fact that she cares enough to be there should be more important than whether or not she has a scarf on her head.
Maybe if we worried a little tiny bit less about offending one person we would have alittle more civility in life. I agree that parents need to model and if the school needs to educate the parents perhaps it indirectly helps the kids.
My mind is boggled at all the people, mostly women, who are out during the day in their pajamas. I mean, whatever - you do you - but it does make me laugh. How hard is it to get dressed?
And that explains why we really have no standards for dress, language, or behavior in so many schools. Anything goes, we must never upset anyone by actually imposing standards. The kids are the real losers. Fortunately, I’m not affected by it personally, but sad for the kids who are.
That’s false.
People are upset by different things, just not the same things. I’m more upset by people who are purposefully rude, insulting and hurtful enough to embarrass another person’s choice in clothing than I am about the types of clothing listed on that dress code.
I’m also more annoyed about people who make personal judgements about others based on such superficial criteria as dress than I am about actual dress.
Remember when the really low rise jeans were in? And then they would be paired with thong underwear? At my son’s preschool, every single day, one mom or another would be bending down or crouching and it was just - priceless. No, I don’t think a dress code should have been enforced, I wouldn’t embarrass them about it, but come on. No sense. How many two year olds do you have to hear say” I see your underwear!” Before you get it.
What you wear is a choice, something over which you have complete control, and which is intended to and does make a statement about you. The preschool comment brings back amusing memories. One of the moms at our kindergarten regularly wore extraordinarily revealing tops, to display her very expensive augmentation surgery. Maybe 90 % of her breasts were exposed. During the weekly volunteer reading time with the kids, too many kids were just fascinated by the open chest next to them, and as kids that age often do, tried to touch the object of their interest. I think the teacher asked that the parent not return?