Controversy over high school dress code for parents

Article on controvery:

The school web site:

The parent dress code:

The article in the Houston Chronicle says that “While some said the guidelines were necessary to maintain a dignified atmosphere, others have taken issue, saying the rules codify deeper issues tied to class, gender and race.” Some of the parents and the teacher’s union are among the opposition.

That is ridiculous. Pure classism.

Wow—when my kids were in HS, I tried to drop them off without having to get out of the car and be seen. When I’ve been on their campus, I always saw folks in a wide range of attire. I’m not aware of any schools in our state who gave a dress code for parents and think that would run into significant opposition.

Looks like there is a duplicate of this thread.

Yeah this is a good idea. Let’s put even MORE barriers to parents being involved in their kid’s life and school.

The pdf seems to have been removed.

This news piece seems to contain the dress code in question.

This is an unbelievable scenario IMO, an AA woman principal is achieving what by this stance? All this will do is bring massive attention to anything she has ever done, every dollar she has ever spent, every mistake she has ever made. She is a fool.

You can go to the school web site (second link in post #0) which has a link to the dress code.

Hilarious but also so sad that adults have to be instructed how to dress in public.

I don’t even like dress codes for students. Shout out to Evanston Township HS in Illinois for at least having a thoughtful one.
“Staff shall enforce the dress code consistently and in a manner that does not reinforce or increase marginalization or oppression of any group based on race, sex, gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion, cultural observance, household income or body type/size.”

Under the code students may wear hats, hoodies, tank tops and spaghetti straps — all items barred under the old dress code.

Students may not wear clothing containing violent language or images, images or language that depict drug or alcohol use, or clothing that includes hate speech, profanity, pornography or hostility toward marginalized groups. Leggings are fine.”

There are dress expectations at work. Best for the kids to learn them now. The parents need to care so the kids care.

I too agree that schools and parents aren’t doing kids any favors by allowing them to wear anything at all to school. Reinforcing bad habits of dress in schools will mark those kids’ lower class status for a very long time. I’m surprised a public school official would take this issue on, but I give her a lot of credit for doing so-she must really care about the kids. It would be so much easier to say nothing and let those who wish to be slobs do so. Remember that she doesn’t get any personal benefit from this, and a whole lot of flak.

I saw nothing wrong with the letter and applaud her for having the guts to say what needed to be said.

There was a time, within my lifetime, when adults of all races, ethnicities, and socio-economic classes would have already known and abided by the basics of the letter. Americans didn’t always look so awful in public.

I worked in a very low income school for a few years. I cannot tell you one article of clothing that any of the parents were ever wearing. I can tell you about my interactions with parents and how kids that had parents who met with me tended to do better in school.

I do not, for the life of me, understand the obsession over what we choose to put over our bodies.

My dad was a plumber. He’d pick me up from school every day and was often covered in grime. His jeans were often ripped. But you know what? He picked me up every day and we talked the whole way to wherever we were going. It’s been nearly 20 years since that last pick up but I still have very vivid memories of my dad waiting for me after school. And now in my late 20s, I continue to have a very close relationship with my parents.

But it’s quite a fine line…the principal is wearing a blouse that shows the top of her cleavage in the article in #4. Is that a violation? I’m assuming not. But how much is too much? I think there’s something to be said for the comments in #9 and #10 but I believe it’s too hard to identify where on that fine line to land. I like the dress code described by @maya54.

Seriously, no one is objecting to a workman stopping by the school in his uniform or work clothes directly from work-the policy prevents pajamas and hair rollers, and overly sexualized dress. Hard to believe we need to tell adults this, but I guess we do.

One of the private schools in our state instituted a dress code after losing a BIG donation due to students ultra-casual clothing on campus (flannel pj bottoms, sexy spaghetti strap tank tops, ultra shirt shorts).

I think it’s fine to have a high standards and model those standards but not retroactively apply them. It would be good to have publicity and buy-in among the students and community. The only photo I see of the principal is her in a high neck black sweater with a floral blazer.

The private school my kids attended had a dress code for students and I can’t recall anyone rebelling—our kids didn’t. The clothing required wasn’t unreasonable and weren’t clothing our kids were uncomfortable in.

Wow, when my son was small I used to work night shift, some mornings I didn’t get home until 9.00am and I was in the pick up line by 2.30. It took every ounce of energy to brush my hair, I certainly couldn’t comply with a dress code.

The dress code honestly doesn’t sound overly stringent. It’s on the school webpage. It saddens me that the principal feels it’s needed, but she knows the community much better than I do and it seems some people (including actors/actresses) seem pretty unaware of what clothing may be unsuitable to be worn outside of the home.

I would want so much to show up in leggings, pajamas, hair rollers, and a bonnet. Whatever a bonnet is. Flip flops too.

You just don’t tell parents what to wear. You can tell them what time the meeting starts, and then start on time, dress well yourself, and otherwise model positive, nondiscriminatory, and non-bullying behavior.