I am with you @romanigypsyeyes. Don’t understand any reference to evil eyes. And the deleted post was one that was empty, IIRC. My guess about Facebook posts is that perhaps one of the partners does not want the other or their Facebook friends to know if they are considering leaving, so wouldn’t post that for obvious reasons. That said, don’t know many (or probably any) who air their dirty laundry on Facebook. Seems inappropriate.
I’ve learned about divorces on facebook. As was said above, it’s usually when a relationship status changes, or one partner shows a new city of residence of “moved to XX” status. I’ve been VERY surprised a couple of times.
LOL!! Evil eye relates to the notion that ones who overload FB with hourly lovey dovey happy pics, make other people feel annoyed or envious and eventually create enough bad vibes to face some loss. I know it sounds crazy and to be honest, I always feel positive after seeing people happy in their lives, as long as it’s not an hourly update. Even then I can opt out to see their posts instead of cursing them.
We all know that divorces happen to married people and other than obvious cases, only two people in a relationship truly know what went wrong and what can’t be fixed. That’s not the issue. I don’t get too many people posting hourly updates of Hollywood style fancy lovefests and then kaboom, out of nowhere you hear about their divorce.
Having grown up with the concept of the “evil eye” it usually meant that someone was jealous of your “good fortune” and would give you an “evil” or envious look. I am guessing that the OP was a bit tongue in cheek about people boasting or posting too many happy photos coming back to “bite them.”
Back to the OP. I have seen people break up on facebook and, yes, they tend to be couples who post constant intimate details about their relationship online. I do not quite understand that level of disclosure among adults, but I have seen it happen.
People posting frequently about their perfect partners and blissful relationships are just like parents bragging about their perfect, high achieving kids. The more over-the-top the bragging, the more you expect there are issues.
I don’t believe much of the stuff I read on Facebook. I am seldom surprised, but often entertained!
Neither my ex or myself posted anything on FB when we split. We just stopped posting pictures of us together. If/when I start a new relationship I do not plan on posting pictures of us on FB. My ex has been pretty good about it. He has not posted any pictures of himself and his girlfriend. Our kids do not need to see those pictures.
Not many of my FB friends post lovey doveys. A few declare their eternal love to their spous on FB that I don’t understand. why would they do that when they can say in person?
There was a recent breakup in our community that we all found out about on FB. Spouse moved for a one-year job assignment, got to the new location, and posted on FB to the spouse (and the world) that she was not returning and made some serious allegations. You NEVER would have guessed based on the public presentation. The spouse who’s still here hasn’t been in contact with any of us since. 28 years of marriage, three kids in their early 20s.
College boyfriend announced his second divorce on FB (and subsequent marriage five months later to someone he’d known for three months). Glad to have dodged that bullet…
I never look at someone’s relationship status or where they live when I read a post. Seems like a waste of time and intrusive to me .
I don’t have a problem with people posting happy things about their lives. If they’re overdoing it, it doesn’t hurt me. I don’t expect people to tell me private things about what’s going poorly if they don’t want to. Some people do and some people don’t. There seems to be an industry of people having problems with the way others post. As long as people are not being offensive or mean, post away however you want! I’ll celebrate your happy things, and commiserate with your sad ones.
Life’s too short to be resentful, jealous, or skeptical of other people’s lives.
I think OP was using the term evil eye when she meant that perhaps people who are too exuberant on their FB pages are ‘jinxing’ their relationship.
How is it intrusive if someone posts it on their page? (re: their relationship status) Also, don’t know if they still do it, but facebook used to notify everyone if someone changed their relationship status. Many people don’t put one at all these days- even if they are married or engaged.
It always cracks me up when Spouse A (usually the wife) posts something on FB about how the happiest day of her life was exactly X years ago when she married her husband/best friend/soul mate and wishes him the best anniversary ever … and the husband isn’t even on FB to see it.
Playing to the crowd, much?
Growing up I had heard of the evil eye and didn’t believe it saying it is an old superstition. With life experience I now believe in it. My parents used to say no matter how high ( much success you achieve) you go in life always keep two feet on the ground because when you are standing on a cliff or on top of the mountain the fall to the bottom is harder. The belief was that not all your friends will share in your happiness (frenemies) so it is best not to brag about your successes otherwise others may look at you with jealousy which in turn cast negative vibes on you. For those who believe in this theory they take it very seriously and don’t consider this something to be joked about. In different cultures something is usually worn to protect oneself from the evil eye. For those who are not familiar with this it may sound weird but in many cultures this is truly a belief.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evil_eye
@MomofWildChild Relationship status is not always easy to find when the post first appears. Sometimes you have to look for it. That’s what I meant by intrusive , JMO.
@carolinamom2boys you don’t have to look. Unless you tell facebook not to, it appears in your newsfeed.
I don’t know why anyone’s posts bug anyone. Just unfollow (or unfriend) the person. Seems simple enough. I’ve unfollowed pretty much all of my family and definitely all of my in-laws because (believe it or not) I hate politics in my newsfeed.
I don’t friend people on Facebook unless they are friends of mine, nor do I follow friends of friends. Everyone’s FB practices are different. I don’t really care what others choose to do.
H and I were not friends on Facebook for years becauce he could not understand why we should be, given we live in the same house. We recently became friends and have never, ever communicated via Facebook. I do not think either of us have ever commented on each other’s page.
I therefore cannot imagine expressing my undying love and devotion to him via Facebook. Anyone doing that would make me question their relationship and/or sanity. Really, on Facebook?
DH set up a FB account seven years ago. He’s been on it three times – all in the first week. We never friended each other. S2 doesn’t friend people older than him, and S1 friended me four years ago, but what I get to see is highly limited.
OK by me.