While reading on Facebook about sudden divorce of yet another couple of acquaintances who were posting about their undying love, devotion and compatibility until last week, it baffles me if these people put up a fake facade or does a switch goes off suddenly that changes everything? Is their an evil eye effect on Facebook or what as most divorces happen to ones who post most lovey dovey pictures having a great time every day?
We all want the life we have on FB.
I recently read an article that said people who put up the most pictures and posts about their relationship on FB are the ones whose relationships are most lacking. It stated that they felt the need to publicize their happiness as a way to make up for all that was missing. I joked with an old friend who professed she was not as slim as her FB post made her appear…I said, “FB is no place to be honest!”
Finding this hard to believe. Have never, ever seen posts about a couple’s divorce on facebook. Ever. That said, if they post this instead of the awful political garbage, I am all for it.
@jym626 Divorces are rarely announced on Facebook, usually man change relationship status and woman change last name. Usually I hear about divorce from some common friend.
I think people who keep posting about their great relationship on FB are trying to talk themselves into it. Have a cousin and a friend who are so “publicly” lovey dovey and then ended up divorced. My cousin, especially, always posted about her husband and at get togethers, insisted on sitting next to him and would enter rooms holding hands.
You said “while reading about the sudden divorce about another couple of acquaintances who were posting about their undying love”. That sounds like you are saying you are reading (your words) their posts. Regardless, IMO it gives me a big yawn.
By the way, we aren’t talking about young couples. These are 40 something people with kids and all. In some cases, kids are younger but in others gone to college. I wonder if being empty nesters pushes some away from each other?
Seriously, so what?
I certainly have seen both undying love and divorces on facebook. And no, not just from my generation but from my parents’ generation as well.
Do you consider evil eye a thing? I’m sort of starting to buy into it after seeing a lot on FB but my sensible side thinks it’s BS.
^Trust your sensible side.
No matter what they put on Facebook, no one knows except them what actually goes on behind closed doors.
Evil eye is a thing in my culture and I don’t necessarily believe it but it’s still something I have an irrational fear of…
But what the heck does that have to do with this thread?!
^My guess is the “evil eye” might have been in a deleted/edited post.
The ones who have to make a show of everything are the ones that I believe the least. People with money don’t discuss it, people in good marriages don’t have to post pictures of kissing and lovey dovey stuff.
I absolutely understand why the empty nest causes divorces. Some people get married and have kids, then forget that they were a couple in the first place - they put the kids ahead of themselves, never go out with each other for date nights, take each other for granted, never vacation alone, never have hobbies or interests together. Then the kids leave and they’re left with a stranger they didn’t bother to keep in touch with through the years.
When my ex and I were having issues the last couple of years of the marriage, he posted many pics of us. I’ve never had a FB account and didn’t like the posts. I believe he was in denial about our issues and it somehow made him feel better. Fast forward to now, he’s in another relationship and according to FB, life has never been better. I do not think the posts match reality in his case, unfortunately.
There are so many complexities as to why marriages end. It’s a lot of factors. It’s a painful process.
@Madison85 ah ok thanks. I was very confused!
The evil eye is in the OP.
My recently-divorced FB friends have been really discrete, perhaps because they tend to have relatives from both sides of the family following them.
One man posted a picture of his backyard recently and I thought to myself that that was a different yard. Then I found out from non FB methods that he had moved out. Another FB friend posted pictures of her vacationing several times this summer with one kid at a time and no spouse, and I found out later they were no longer together. So I haven’t seen any big announcements.
I read somewhere that couples who renew their vows often divorce sometime soon afterwards, but I don’t know if that is true.
Ah, I see that now.
I reform my question: how the heck would an evil eye work on facebook?
I digress though. It’s not an important question.