Crazy Facebook Video- need advice

Parent Cafe
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My daughter is a dean’s list student, currently in her second year at an excellent school. She has always been hard working, highly responsible, and mature for her age. The other day I went to her Facebook photo album for the first time and happened to see some pretty crazy pictures and a video of something she did last May. It appeared to be some kind of crazy audience participation event where students were volunteering to accept outrageous dares. The video showed my daughter and her roommate, dressed in bikinis, having an all-out food fight while the crowd cheered them on. They were throwing pies at each other, smashing cakes, squirting mustard and chocolate syrup, dumping cans of baked beans and Spaghetti-O’s over each other’s heads. They seemed to be having the time of their life, and as you can imagine they ended up completely covered in sloppy food.

I couldn’t believe my daughter would want to do something like that, but I understand that it may have just been a fun opportunity to blow off some steam at the end of the semester. I would love to bring it up with her, but I know I probably shouldn’t since it might embarrass her. Should I ask her about it, or just let it go?

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What exactly do you want to say to her and why are you hesitating? I’m not sure I understand what the issue is. Are you worried that she will be upset that you looked at her Facebook page? Are you upset because she posted pictures of herself in a bikini or being silly? What does her being on the dean’s list or at a good school have to do with it? If I saw something like this I would probably just say “I saw your video, it looked like you were having fun”, but I’m guessing that may not be what you want to say.

3

One concern that has merit is how potential employers could question hiring an otherwise qualified applicant after seeing this video on her FB page.

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Well she could keep her facebook page private and that would stop the snooping potential employers. She should have it private anyway for security purposes.

Is the concern that this was easily viewed by anyone and not private? If so, you should talk to her about changing her settings.