<p>how can i avoid creating the wrong impression?</p>
<p>recently i posted something in my blog about relationships, and 2 people (who don’t know me in-depth but have worked with me/studied with me in groups) commented that “gee, i never thought you were the type to want to have a boyfriend. " " me too, i thought you are the type that never wanted to get a bf or marry.” (btw im a girl)</p>
<p>i 'll admit that i have good grades, i’m quite competent (i hold leadership positions in the ECs im involved in, but i 'm not addicted to competition) , and i do work harder than your average highschooler in a public high school. but i still don’t want to create the above-mentioned impression.</p>
<p>i have a lot of friends and i believe that i am capable of liking someone. i’ve had crushes but never really dated. so is that because of the impression i make?</p>
<p>how can i avoid making such impressions? in general, what would make you think that a girl “will never want to get a bf or marry?” </p>
<p>hey, you’re busy, intelligent, a leader. seek out guys of equal level and go out with them. not that i’m this huge romantic expert, but that makes sense to me. and anyway, who cares about an impression? it’s not like it’s particularly negative. anyway you look at it, because you do what you do, that impression will stick with you. you’ll always look a little untouchable. it’s the same everywhere.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about what people think of you in high school. Work hard, get good grades and get into a good college that’s right for you. You will have plenty of time to develop your “impression” after that.</p>
<p>I hate that people think just because you’re smart you’re not a normal teenager. And how they always come to you for help and after that just never talk to you again…</p>
<p>this is typical. if people think you’re smart/hard-working, they assume that you aren’t the bf/gf type. </p>
<p>If it makes you feel better, people are always surprised when I make sarcastic jokes or know about hot guys in movies…they just don’t expect that a person “like me” would be somewhat with it</p>
<p>what i’m saying is, they are more reacting to a stereotype of you, than the real you. these people, as you’ve said, aren’t your close friends.</p>