Criticism in the workplace

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<p>i have been sensitive to strong scents of all kinds for most of my life. My SisIL has recently acquired this sensitivity, and it makes it difficult to work with patients who wear strong scents (she is an MD). i think she has her nurse mention it when folks make appointments. </p>

<p>My niece, who I sent the link to said that she has always noted that her reviews always remark that “she takes criticism well,” and now she wonders whether her male colleagues even get criticized and/or how they would take criticism. Interesting. </p>

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<p>You would think it’s idiot-proof for men, but there are some areas for definite improvement I have observed over the years:</p>

<p>My peeves about my male coworkers’ professional appearance:

  • I hate it when they wear sheer business shirts (culprit is high% polyester) w/o an undershirt.
    I really don’t need to see your nipples or chest chair across the conference table. Or even worse, I REALLY don’t need to see your backhair thru your shirt.
  • I also don’t need to see your hairy legs. It’s time to replace those saggy sock u bought in the 80’s.
  • guys w one shirt button too many left unbuttoned. You’re not on a cruise ship; button it.
  • Immense beer-belly overhang. Just gross…
  • I’ve already covered “Old Spice” in post #8
  • Combover. Just shave it all. Bald is deliberate. Bald looks empowered. Bald looks like you’re going to be a bad-a$$ in the boardroom instead of a victim.
  • Tan shoes do not go w a navy suit.
  • Nose hair & unibrows. If you’re shaving the rest of your face, why are you stopping at the jaw?
  • Coming repeatedly to company-sponsored black-tie charity events in a tan suit. I know they pay you enough. Stop being such a tightwad and get a tux already. You’re a grown up now.</p>
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<p>lol…don’t stop at the jaw, and don’t stop at just the face…no one likes to see a bunch of hair poking out of the back of collar. ugh.</p>

<p>I had one co-worker whose rug was so fake looking. I doubt he ever washed it. Looked like he just added more hair-spray everyday.</p>

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<p>Love a shaved head - very powerful. Although I think there are some men that will not be able to pull that off. Men who shave their heads are usually in unbelievably good shape. I somehow cannot picture a shaved head with a pot belly.</p>

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<p>Many workplaces have instituted policies discouraging or even banning wearing of perfume/cologne due to allergies and annoyance at built-up odors. Especially in offices where folks are expected to work up to 12+ hours a day in the same office/workspaces. </p>

<p>Personally, I tend to care much more about whether my colleagues are pulling their weight, gets stuff done on time, and are at least competent in their respective jobs than their fashion/grooming choices so long as they don’t smell or exhibit poor hygiene. </p>

<p>If I had a choice of a slobbily dressed/put together colleague who does what I care about with my colleagues well and a well-dressed clotheshorse who cannot be bothered or who is incompetent, I’d rather have the former as a colleague. </p>

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<p>I think it has a lot to do with differences from the norm. I have worked in medical facilities and physician offices where women vastly outnumber men in all levels other than as physicians. I have seen men being put down by the women in charge as strongly as women complain they are treated elsewhere. There are women who quite openly say they would never hire a man and run organizations with dozens of office- and medical staff with no men.</p>

<p>As to criticism, quite often the criticizers based on gender come from both sexes. A man may be referred to, often positively by other men and women as a romeo, while a woman like him is invariably put down by other woman, and to a lesser extent by men.</p>