<p>I read in a self-help book that criticism serves as your enemy as opposed to your “ALLY” when using it.</p>
<p>when you criticise a person, no matter what it may be about, it only “enforces” that person to justify her/his self by “BACKFIRING” criticism “at YOU” in ORDER to protect her/his “EXISTENCE/IDENTITY…”</p>
<p>very interesting concept…i never realized this until now…</p>
<p>although I don’t criticise frequently, I still use it whenever I feel I have to make a BIG COMMENT about someone…</p>
<p>so when you give someone an “offensive lecture”, you are only motiving them to backfire at you because her or him wants to protect his or her existence which feels “100% inferior” to you which no person wants to feel…</p>
<p>the book stated that praising people is much more beneficial…</p>
<p>no wonder criticism never helped me whenever I used it!!!</p>
<p>god what an evil tool!! I thought it would give me satisfaction but instead gave me negative results…</p>
<p>now I will praise people everywhere I go, as you should too.</p>
<p>If you can’t stand someone, don’t criticise them, but ASK them how they feel or what they need, etc.</p>