For starters, I’m sorry I’m putting this here. If it should not be please let me know. But I need some opinions on boy troubles because I REALLY like this boy…
I met this boy through a friend while I’m in Italy and I have a huge crush on him. I thought that maybe he liked my friend at first but she insists that he does not. He speaks Italian, I speak English, so it’s a bit hard to communicate. But my cousin speaks okay Italian & my friend is able to translate. my cousin asked him if he liked me (without me knowing) & he said that he just broke up with a girlfriend a few months ago and wanted to go the summer without a girlfriend. Of course, I don’t want a boyfriend here either. But I’ve never had my first kiss so I was hoping I’d get it here. so my cousin had also said that he was staring at me while I was walking by (at my butt, cause it’s bubbly lol) and later that night we were hanging out with everyone and he just kept looking over at me. I could tell because we were sitting right next to each other. I followed him on instagram also and he followed me back but he had to make sure it was me (he asked if it was me)… and the next night I was upset by some personal drama & then him and his friends were playing a game and he asked me if I wanted to play, I said no, and he came super close and said my name and was like “you have to come play. Come. Yes.” & pulled me up. It was so OMG (I’m such a loser lol)
But my friend who can translate and knows him is leaving in 2 days… she says she wants to get me and him to kiss by then. She says she has a plan that involves me getting/pretending that I’m drunk… which is not me because when I drink I just get super tired.
My point of this is to ask what you think I should do. Should I try to talk to him more? Should I go with my friend & try to get with him? Or should I just leave it be until next summer and hope he doesn’t have a girlfriend by then (or he forgets about me)? And if you think I should flirt , get to know him more, how in the world do I do that? How do I flirt? Should I dress super cute, how do I get enough guts to talk to him and be myself?
Physical infatuations are kinda empty. If you can’t communicate with the guy, it’s very hard to know if you’d remotely like him if you knew him. For all you know…he vehemently dislikes many of the things you love. Wouldn’t it suck to have your first kiss with this person you hardly know…and find out later that he’s a jerk who says and does horrible things? If all you want for a first kiss…is a generically exotic guy who is hot…and you don’t care about the rest…by all means, go for it. If you want the person you kiss to be someone you actually kinda like because you respect who he is and what he thinks…I’d wait for a partner with clearer communication.
I get that you think he’s hot…and he probably returns the physical interest. But wouldn’t it be nicer to kiss someone who speaks your language?
I didn’t realize how much this would make me seem like a total user. I didn’t mean I wanted my kiss to be with someone I barely even know. I’ve been getting to know him a lot actually through my friend talking with the other of them. We’re supposed to be going out with them tonight for this festival thing, so hopefully I’ll get to know even more about him there. I speak only a little Italian and there’s such a thing as google translate. I really like him, other than the fact that he’s just cute. Honestly, he isn’t really even that cute, not my usual type. But I find him funny and extremely sweet…
Nope. I didn’t say I wanted HIM specifically to be my first kiss it’s just because I had said I’d never had a kiss and my friend goes “ok well we should get the boy you find cute then” and that’s the reason I even mentioned kissing. That’s not the only reason I like him yknow. I probably just explained it poorly. I guess it’s not a good idea…whatever. I will talk to him and enjoy myself as best I possibly can and not expect any outcome in the end.