<p>Yeah, having a crush on a teacher completely sucks. Like really.</p>
<p>Now, how to end this crush is my question?</p>
<p>Get an F in the class and watch he or she get mad at you.</p>
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Hmm, no I don’t think either really works</p>
<p>Eh, in life you’ll definitely develop plenty of crushes on people that you are unable to pursue whether it’s someone who’s already taken, a boss, or whatever. Might as well get used to them now.</p>
<p>I’ve had a couple crushes that I’ve gotten over - I’m infatuated for a few weeks and then it just kinda fades away. Yours will too.</p>
<p>The first thing to do is realize that you likely don’t have a crush on the teacher, but rather that the teacher fits into some (possibly abstract) criteria you find “attractive.”</p>
<p>I can say with near certainty that you don’t know the teacher well enough to have a crush on his/her actual person, but rather that you are familiar with how he acts in front of his students. He/she has traits you find desirable in a mate, but is likely not special in any way.</p>
<p>Now that you’ve realized this, it’s easier to let the crush go and instead appreciate the person, enjoying but not desiring him/her. Sort of like Kant’s definition of something aesthetically pleasing: you find beauty in it, but you don’t desire it (that would be something agreeable).</p>
<p>Imagine you in 10 years in your 20s and your teacher in 10 years in her late 30s probably, perhaps even 40s (or even 50s :o). </p>
<p>Now reconsider your relationship.</p>
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<p>Are you talking about the beautiful vs. the sublime?</p>
<p>It’s only a crush (even on a teacher), and IMO, no harm at that. </p>
<p>Go on fantasizing. . .it’s only a fleeting sensation.</p>
<p>I will give you one rule, however, and you must never break it: NEVER act on your feelings for said crush. NEVER. </p>
<p>Did I mention “never”?</p>
<p>Crush is fleeting. It comes and goes. Just do something that you enjoy in your spare time and get your mind off that teacher.
I always distance myself and my mind from the person I have crush on. It works fine for me and I eventually loose that feeling. Note that distance does not equal to act mean.
Since you even posted it on CC, I bet you think about that teacher very often.</p>
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<p>Yes, there’s also the danger that once you get that first inkling that you have a crush on them, you start projecting other traits you find desirable onto them. It’s a vicious cycle.</p>
<p>Also, to clarify post 3, I meant grammatically.</p>