I have a crush on one of my very best friends and he told me he wants me to go to the same college as him (A&M) but I was thinking about Tulane. I want to be an architect and he wants to be an engineer. We really want to go to the same school, does anyone have any advice?
Go where YOU want to go, not where someone else, who may or may not be in your life down the road, wants.
You need to go to a university which is a very good fit for you.
It is relatively common for students to want to go to a university where their significant other goes, and then have the relationship break up before the end of the first year. This can in some cases lead to significant problems, and transferring is sometimes possible but can be a pain for multiple reasons (potentially including financial reasons). The one case that I am most familiar with the relationship did break up before the end of the first year, but fortunately the university was a very good match for both students so it was fine.
I am not familiar with the architecture program at A&M, nor do I know if there even is one. However, only go there if it has the program you are looking for, and it is financially reasonable and in-budget, and you would want to be there anyway.
Walk away from that notion dear, just walk away. On the other hand A&M has a good architecture program…but not as good as Tulane. Walk away, start a new life, if you think staying close to crush is going to change things, it won’t. Why not tell your crush now you are crushing?
GO where you want to go!
Tulane has an NAAB-accredited BArch (5 year) program. Texas A&M does not, so you would have to do an MArch after doing a BA/BS there.
Ds#2 met his fiancée at Tulane. Just sayin’
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/transfer-students/2058172-applied-to-all-the-wrong-colleges-now-a-freshman-at-a-small-state-school.html may be worth reading.
For what it’s worth, I chose a college based on where my crush had attended college (and he wasn’t even there anymore but I thought it would impress him!). He never even noticed that i went there. But that college turned out to be a great choice for me…so just goes to show…well, I don’t know what it shows…I guess it just goes to show that life is really weird.
Where friends (or crushes) attend school should be a factor in your college decision, just not the only one or the most important one. If all other factors are similar between two colleges and your crush goes to one, then it’s an easy decision.
Isn’t A&M much cheaper than Tulane (if you are a Texan)? Adding a master degree may still be cheaper than 4 years of a private.
Ooh, I don’t know if an architect/engineer match is a good idea! 
(engineers and architects aren’t known for their fondness for each other)
If you’re real friends, being at two different colleges will not break you apart.
Is he testing the waters?? Is this his way of finding out if you’re interested in him… maybe he’s interested in you
Tell him if you want to date him. But keep it separate from your college choice. Do what’s best for your education and career.
Even if you were officially involved, each you still would be advised to choose the place that is best for you individually. Distance is not automatically a relationship killer - especially in the 21st century when you have the means of instantaneous communication available 24/7.
I know an architect and engineer who dated all the way thru college and are now living together. So you never know…
TULANE TULANE TULANE. NOT EVEN A DISCUSSION. Tulane is a much better school and trust me when I say you’ll meet many new people just as good and better than this guy you’re crushing on. Relationships are temporary, but doing what makes you happy lasts forever.
Do not follow a boy or girl for college. Go where you want to go. People change and you may not even be friends with them in college so going to a particular college to be with someone isn’t a great idea. If you really want to go to Tulane, you should go! Absolutely choose a school for YOU.
You’ve got to be a strong independent woman! Tulane is an awesome school, and if he cares about you, your friendship will continue even if you’re at different colleges. You’ll have lots of guys in your life and you can’t make this important decision based on a guy