<p>I have a close friend who just went to college at Stanford (not really party school but still college). At my college, and at pretty much every college, everybody drinks and hook up. So I just wonder if a nice, friendly girl like my friend would step into that kind of college life too. She always hanged out with the smart group and her friends were usually nice too.</p>
<p>Has anyone had a similar friend to mine and seen how she dealt with college life?</p>
<p>This is personal, thanks.</p>
<p>All depends on the person. Some girls will just get caught up in it all, have a bit to drink, let their minds go crazy and do anything. My roommate hooked up with a virgin girl the 2nd weekend.</p>
<p>What ar said. It entirely depends on the person. I am the smart, nice girl and I haven’t drank a bit since I’ve arrived at college over a week ago, and I go to one of the biggest party schools in the nation! </p>
<p>People that haven’t really had exposure to alcohol and parties and stuff (ie sheltered people) do tend to go wild.</p>
<p>what happens to them?
some of them will stay nice
some of them…well… lets just say they get a little beat up ;)</p>
<p>“People that haven’t really had exposure to alcohol and parties and stuff (ie sheltered people) do tend to go wild.”</p>
<p>So basically, my friend is probably going wild. She seemed pretty sheltered to me. Wait that doesn’t really make sense.</p>
<p>I never really partied or drank in highschool. I don’t in college either. Oh well.</p>
<p>she’ll be fine. there’s lots of nice kids at stanford.</p>
<p>Even at the biggest party schools in the country there will still be groups of kids that stay 100% alcohol/party/wild/drug free. </p>
<p>At the formerly #1 party school in the country, I’ve met tons of “nice” kids that don’t get into the whole college party culture at all, but they’re not boring nerds that stay cooped up in their rooms by any means.</p>
<p>She’ll likely stay the same or change very slowly.</p>
<p>The people who seemingly go wild are just the one’s who always wanted to but bottled it up because of parents/ social pressure or something of that nature. If I knew your friend personally I’d probably be able to tell. Some you can tell are just ready to break free of their parents strict rules and go nuts but you can tell the ones that are just okay being themselves.</p>
<p>That being said, why are you so concerned if she starts drinking or flirting with guys. Sure, there are scumbags out there. But I think in itself drinking alcohol responsibly or “hooking up” with people you like are not evil in themselves. Just my opinion.</p>
<p>If she starts drinking it’s not like she did a complete 360, i mean it’s college! you’re finally free from your parents reign. the key is to just not to go crazy. and i slightly agree with the most sheltered they are the more they want to experiment. but i also see a lot more sheltered kids stay the way they are. i think everyone will experiment and change a bit. i mean i definitely drink more now that i’m in college than i did in high school; however, i didnt become some psycho slut lol. i think she’ll be fine :)</p>
<p>I have a feeling your “friend” is you OP.</p>
<p>jkaufman ur crazy I’m a dude.</p>
<p>secondly, I’m just a paranoid idiot. That’s basically why I’m concerned.</p>
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<p>yes, it does. the people who are tightly wound by living in a very strict and structured environment tend to unravel the most because they didn’t get a chance to do it before. freshmen seem to go “wild” more so than upperclassmen probably for the same reasons.</p>
<p>What dorm is your “friend” in? Some dorms party more than others…but it also depends on who she hangs out with. If she wants to stay away from partying she easily could.</p>
<p>I have a feeling that either you’re writing about yourself, or if you’re a guy, you have this thing for “the nice girl” you’re asking about. </p>
<p>Since I’m a presumptous c*ck, I’ll assume I’m right either way.</p>
<p>But in all seriousness, it totally depends on her. You’re being too general, anyway. I think you’d know how a close friend would turn out more than us. Just for the record though, I knew this older girl who was kind of like the girl you described, and when she went to college she went wild. Flashed people and stuff. Totally crazy.</p>
<p>As for me, I’ve never really been exposed to alcohol/drugs/etc. before, and in college, I’m avoiding them again. Guess you could say I’ve kept the “nice girl” attitude.</p>
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<p>One, it does make sense. Two, I didn’t say that she is probably going to go wild. I said the ones that DO are quite often the ones that were the protected by mommy and daddy do tend to go a little wild when they have freedom that they never had before.</p>
<p>girls should be careful imo. A girl that drinks 3 or more beers can do crazy things (something i’ve learned in the past after hooking up with girls at partys). Girls don’t handle beer as well as most guys so they really shouldn’t drink too much or expect to wake up regretting what you did last night.</p>
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<p>Girls don’t handle alcohol as well… Simple fact. They weigh less so it hits them harder…</p>
<p>“People that haven’t really had exposure to alcohol and parties and stuff (ie sheltered people) do tend to go wild.”</p>
<p>I agree ^^^
I have seen it first hand with a good 2/3 of the people who go to my college from my HS that I knew personally. I no longer hang with them. They are too hardcore for me now.</p>