<p>I would not allow the car - for all of the reasons mentioned - and I agree with Hunt, I would offer to drive her home once a week. I have a daughter who only comes home at breaks - but if your daughter needs that time with you, this is not a good time to take away that safety net. </p>
<p>However, I would pay for the hospital bill. I think it is really important to convey that you are not trying to punish, or teach her a lesson as much as you are doing what you need to do to keep her safe. </p>
<p>I think she needs to hear loud and clear how much you love her. Paying the bill says we care for you even when you screw up (but we aren’t going to make it easy to screw up again).</p>
<p>Plus - it gives you the energy to stick to the harder issue, which will be the car. :)</p>