<p>Hi i noe this sounds kinda bizarre, but my parents are not that close and they’re not into the whole mushy, lets celebrate our anniversary thing so therefore they can’t remember the date they were married. Also, their marriage certificate is locked up in a bank safety deposit box, and they’re apparently too lazy to get it. Can we just guess this information for now until they get the real date? Or will my form get rejected because of this conflicting info?</p>
<p>Your parents only have to give the month and year of their marriage. I would suggest that they find this information and provide it accurately. Maybe one of them had their wedding rings engraved with the date. Maybe your grandparents remember…We don’t have a big hoopla over our anniversary either…but we KNOW the month and the year (and so do the grandparents).</p>
<p>They’re probably not even married!!! Sorry couldn’t resist.</p>
<p>Reading this made me think back to an old sitcom I remember where the couple in question was <married>, in some Foriegn Country wedding service, and realized much later in life that the marriage was not valid.</married></p>
<p>Although not to remember even the month and year they were married??? Wow…Just Wow. And I don’t make a big hoopla over my anniversary (nor does the wife), infact, afew years ago we were incorrect on the number of years we were married… Knew the date though…just temporarily forgot how to subtract Ha Ha. Maybe the actual wedding date was after your DOB making a potential embarrassing sitch for them?</p>
<p>There is a chance that your parents have never been officially married, but are too embarassed to tell you. Perhaps, for instance, one of them is still married to another person who won’t divorce them. Your parents’ story about not remembering the date or year and not being willing to access their certificate doesn’t add up.</p>
<p>Are they able to file their income taxes as a married couple? If so, they probably are married. If not, they probably are not married.</p>
<p>I learned as a teen when I was nosily going through my mother’s dresser drawers that both of my parents had been married to others before they married each other. It’s not unusual for families to have these kind of secrets.</p>
<p>There are lots of reasons for secrets, but keeping them is not good for the family in the long run. There is rarely a secret so dark that the damage done by being secretive is not worse in the long run.
My grandmother fudged about this. When doing geneology it became clear she was pregnant when she got married. This was the dark and dreadful secret she hid all her 86 years.
There is a “funny” article out on the web somewhere with it turning out that granny and gramps never married cause he refused. When it came out they were in their 80’s and he finally married her. sigh.
If they will not cooperate I would guess you can track done the info either in town hall or church/temple record.</p>
<p>That’s public information. Use google and find it out.</p>
<p>LOL </p>
<p>Thanks a lot everyone, I looked at that question real quick, and i thought we had to provide the exact date, my parents do know the month and year but not the exact date so i guess i’m fine.</p>